mature females,can u give advice?

Question

my girl wants to give her space,is it wrong to call her?its been a month,should i go after her to show her i love her?how long should i give her?

Answer 1

Whoa that sure seems a very long one month I'd say.

Hmmm..

It's not wrong to ask for some spaces, and its definitely not wrong either to rejuvinate when it's about time. How long these should take, hmmm... none so far that I've known any SOP's was set. Trust your instict man, go ahead if you think an open discussion with your girlfriend is necessary, that way you'll know where are you both standing.

Just to comment about "going after her to show you love her".. well.. whatever causes the cool-off, it will always be more than that thing of going after her.. It's now all about how much you are more willing to give of yourself after getting back your relationship to normal.

The reason why some relationship fall is because one loves too little while the other loves too much.

Wishing you well in your love relationship.

Answer 2

as it's been a month, and presumably there's been no contact between you, then I would write to her, a short sweet chaty letter just letting her know how you are, what your news are, nothing heavy or complicated. Just ask how she's feeling and what she's up to and, if she has some time, she might want to telephone you.
I suggest a letter because a phone call puts someone on the spot to make an instant decision about what they're going to say, and a text is so impersonal! A letter gives you a chance to consider what you're writing and make sure it is light-hearted, and it also gives her time to read it, ponder its content and consider her answer. There's none of that face-to-face confrontation that often ends up with the wrong words spoken and a lot of regrets afterwards.
However, my gut feeling is that, after a month, she's already lost from you. Giving someone space can reap benefits for a short time, to make someone appreciate you and see you objectively, but a month sounds like a long time to me.
Good luck, try the letter approach. I wish you well.

Answer 3

Probably best not to call her, maybe send her flowers with a quick note to say you still think about her and hope that she is well.
If you can't do the flower thing, then call her, but let your first words be "Hi, I can't talk long, but I just wanted to see if you'd like company tomorrow? Or next Saturday." - If she says no, then just be sweet and say "All right, but I'm here for you, if you need me, Ok don't forget."

? Worth a try? Good luck, but if she doesn't feel the chemistry, then there's not much you can do. Apparently it is the FEMALE that chooses the male, so go find one that smiles at you, it might mean she's keen. :)

Answer 4

She's created a necessary space between both of you, and she's been silent for a month.... a call could drive her further away (after all, she's trying to tell you something here). One thing to do might be to send her a card with "thinking of you... wish you were here" writing-- nothing serious or heavy. Do no more as this could send her deeper into this stage of your relationship.

My sense is that after a month she may be signaling to you that it's over-- so sorry!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Call what is the worst thing that could happen. However, the fact that she said he needs space and has not had contact with you in one month. Really sounds as though she has ended the relationship and it may be time to move on. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 7

I would say just let her go don't call her and don't send anything to her you would just be spending money on someone who is playing games with you get on with your life there is someone out there for you if she wanted to talk she would have called by now I think she broke up with you and she didn't want to tell you so she just left I do wish the very best for you don't sit around all day waiting for her to call do what you want to do live life to the fullest

Answer 8

Do not call her, it seems she may want to be free. After a month it says it all. Let her go.She would have called you if she wanted you back. That was her excuse for you to take the hint. I am sorry. I hope I am wrong for your sake.

Answer 9

No do not go after. Sometime girls used words like that to get away.

Let her come back to you. I know it is hard but she will contact you if she wants to.

Show her you care by giving her what she wants.

Answer 10

she has not contacted you ?something does not seem right... you have not seen or spoken to her in an month? you need to clarify with her is there someone else.