Is one year too long to ask for someone to be sober before starting again?

Answer 1

One can really not put a time line on this situation. A year is a good place to begin. However, two years is even better. Relapse is a common issue among recovering addicts. And the slightest emotional upset can be a major issue. So, the two of you must go with your heart. And you must be aware of what he/she is going through. Educate yourself on the illness of addiction. There is a great deal of material available, and also maybe speak with a counselor in the field of chemical dependency. You need to know what your dealing with and what your loved one is going through. The greater your understanding the better the two of you will do. good luck and God bless****

Answer 2

Time limits are a bad idea.
The goal is sobriety.
It would be the belief that sobriety has taken hold and falling off the wagon is not forseeable. That could be more or less than a year.
Here's a bad idea. Achive the change you were looking for but hold them at arms length waiting for the artificial time period to expire. Meanwhile, they will have some time to find someone else. That way the new person can reap the benifits of the sober, responsible personality.

Answer 3

As an alcoholic who has not touched the stuff for 17 years, I will share a difficult truth with you. If you are an alcoholic, there is no "modest" drinking for you. You have to stop and then (this is more dificult) face the fact that you must go through life without another drink of any alcohol of any kind.

One sip, and all that you have gone through will have been for nothing and you will be right where you started. And, each time you try again, the more difficult and less successful your effort will be.

Two of my father's siblings died of alcoholism and he was a drunk. There were four alcoholic siblings on my mothers side, of whom, three died young. I had two brothers; one has died at age 47 of alcoholism, and the other is drunk every night. I no longer accept calls from him.

When you are a alcoholic, it's not like cleptomania that can be cured by counseling. You are an alcoholic for life, but you can be an alcoholic who never touches alcohol, and you can save your life, your marriage and the hapiness of you children.

Answer 4

No not at all but if the have an alcohol addiction and problem they should stay clean and sober alot longer then that. Have they been to AA yet for help and to detox? Most alchoholics should never pick up another drink again as it will lead to over doing it and another problem.
Some people say once an alcoholic always an alcholic and that they should NEVER pick up a drink again.

Answer 5

if alcohol was a problem in the past putting a time frame on avoiding it will not help,if you want to "try again" I would suggest you follow your feelings,you know down deep if someone is truly changed.take things slow and trust what you feel. It could take 6 months or 6 years for you to truly feel someone has stopped for good and wants to change and you will most likely not have a good relationship until you can find trust in your mate.

Answer 6

Trying to get sober means keeping the focus on yourself. Give him/her the space to do that. And if he/she is trying to get sober without help be very cautious about going back. Take care of yourself first.

Answer 7

Sadly, if there are no children involved I would make a clean break. I'm married to a drinker over 20 years and have had a lifetime of lies, manipulation and pain. He tries to do better, but he can't help himself. I love him dearly, but love can't control the drinking. If kids involved, get help and try everything before you call it quits.

Answer 8

depends on the problems that made you break up in the first place. If that persons drinking or what ever they were into was more important then the relationship a year seems very fare at least to me.

Answer 9

Make it 2.

Answer 10

You can't put a time on things like that......
Everybody is different and learns and lives at a different pace