christians and abusive marriages?

Question

does the Bible endorse divorce from abusive marriages? i need your honest opinions

Answer 1

Yes, you can walk out if he cheats or beats you. But cheating is ruled out. Just walk away. But if he abuses and beats you and calls you bad words, then find a councellor and try working it out. If it doesnt seem to work... then leave. I am christian and I am dating a Hindu. He changed to christianity and he stopped his dirty language and his mean attitude slow. I waited and helped change. But if he is worth it for you and only you know so

Answer 2

Endorse? This is not a word I would use when talking about the bible.
However, I would contact my pastor if you have one. Abuse of any kind whether it be verbal or physical is not what God planned or wants for you in a marriage. Marriage and love do not equal abuse.
In no way shape or form would God want you to continue in a marriage where there is any kind of abuse. Period.

Answer 3

Can you safely leave? Do you have someplace you can go to for a time? If you believe you should stay married you must leave now. When you are safely gone write your husband and explain why you left and state what it will take to have you come back. Suggestions: 1. Him going to anger management therapy 2. Seeking counseling together and individually 3. Redeveloping your relationship prior to returning together 4. Meeting with your pastor/priest on a regular basis for additional counseling ..... these are just suggestions your list should be something you develop. You must leave now if he is abusive so he clearly understands this type of behavior is unacceptable. When you first contact him after you have left I would also suggest that you will inform your pastor/priest of the situation and be asking them to speak with him if he is not willing to take the initiative to do so. In looking through the Bible about divorce it is very displeasing to God that divorce occurs and is not something He desires. Our relationship with God is a marriage of which we are to pattern our relationships here on earth after. He will never leave us nor forsake us but there are consequences to are actions that are wrong. Abuse is wrong. So the question here is not about divorce but rather consequences for abuse. You must leave, if there are childeren, double the urgency that you must leave. After leaving present your case to him, do not be hasty in returning because abusers will make all these promises and for awhile be amazing but then return to being abusive unless they get help and you rebuild your relationship from the beginning. Meaning: introducing yourselves, talking, dating one another, deepening the new relationship..... Sin of any kind displeases God but if we confess God forgives and forgets. It will take time to rebiuld your marriage. It will take time if you dont as well. In leaving you must also seek help to be able to forgive so hate, anger, and judgement do not consume you. Leave though. There must be a clear wake up call to him.

Answer 4

I really do not know if the Bible does or not... But i know that somewhere in the Bible that it does say to not allow harm to come to your body so to me that means that if you are being abused you are to get out. God gives us common sense you know and in this case i do not feel he would judge your for leaving a marriage under this case and for this reason and you have every right to divorce over it. I am a Christian and i feel that this is okay to do so. Also ask local pastors in your area to get their viewpoints on this as well. Try going to http://www.marriagetoday.org and email Jimmy and Karen Evans with this question as well. They may have some insight and feedback for you on this one. I do not feel that God would want us to stay in a marriage that is abusive and potentially life threatening. He would want us to get out and protect ourselves and our children as well. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

I'm not Bible scholar but I do think that God would not want someone to stay with their spouse when the spouse is beating the crap out of them everyday.

You have to be careful when you say "abusive marriage". That could mean a lot of things. That could mean the husband beats the crap out of his wife everyday. Or it could mean that the wife doesn't get to shop at Nieman Marcus or Macy's every weekend.

If we're talking physcially abusive, emotionally abusive or sexually abusive, if they've tried to work it out and he (or she) continues to abuse the other one, I believe that it is OK to leave and in fact, they should leave.

Answer 6

Honey this is not something that is believed in my religion. If in such a situation you walk out of the relationship yes but divorce is not recognized. Separation is the only way to define but till death do us part is something that Catholics look at. Only if your partner has died then you could get married again.
You can divorce for legal reasons but religiously it is not acknowledged and would not permit you to marry someone with blessings only if you legally marry.

Answer 7

I don't think that God wants for you to suffer that way. Pray for guidance (God always hears you) and call you're local preacher, and Domestic Violence Shelter.
Women have died in abusive situations. Even in an instance where she was pushed into a table corner and hit her head in just that wrong way. Then, the husband, says.."I didn't mean to KILL her"!

The Domestic Violence hot line 24-HOUR HELPLINE: 216-391-HELP (4357)
they can help you plan, and get out safely.

Answer 8

Dear one you must strive to seek God's Guidance. Perhaps you can talk to your priest or pastor. Marriage is a covenant with God. For better or for worse.
The prayer of St. Francis says it best............


Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

“Forgiveness is the fragrance a violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it”

Answer 9

yes it does and i can make it simple.....
The Bible tells you to obey the law of the land.
It is against the law for a man to physically abuse or torment his wife.
However just because he went fishing instead of going shopping with you? That is not abuse....just two people disagreeing what is more important.