What is a needy woman? And how to stop it?

Answer 1

a needy woman is someone whos more than likely been hurt in the past or someone with low self esteem or she is with someone she doesnt trust. the man should just reassure her and make her feel good about herself. The needy woman needs to let go a bit as being needy can wreck a relationship and make the other feel clastrophobic.. if you are the needy woman do things to feel good about yourself, get your own freinds and your own hobbies, get fit and spend time on yourself. no woman needs a man to be happy im a great believer in that, you come into this world alone and you leave alone so dont rely on someone else to make you happy and enrich your life x

Answer 2

Some one who is overly insecure with in them self. They can never be around you enough, so that it's almost sickening to be around them. They want all your attention all your time. The person wants and even demands from you more than you can give them. They just seem to need way more attention paid to them than the normal person would be wanting. Most people like and even enjoy having some personal time for them self when they are in a relation ship, that only normal. But needy people want every free minute you have, it's almost like they feel they deserve all of you to them selves all of the time.

It is not only women that can be this way, men can also become overly needy. It doesn't matter who is doing it, it can drive you nuts.

It can become so bad that you will do any thing to avoid being around the person. I once dated a guy who was extremely needy, he was like a little child always wanting my attention. Like I wasn't suppose to have any other interest in my life, only him and him alone. I finally had to stop seeing him because he was driving me crazy. When I started making excuses to avoid him I knew it was time to let it go, I couldn't stand him any more.

I think the person should get professional help with it, so that they can understand why they are behaving the way that they do. Why they feel that they need so much from others.

Answer 3

The most annoying creature to walk this earth!!!
Gonna give a brief description...

-demands! constant attention from family, friends & surroundings or else doesn't feel secure
-picks fights/drama for attention
-gets vindictive when rejected
-accuses others of things/feelings SHES guilty of (projection)
-is extremely paranoid and possessive in relationships (EXTREME)
-acts emotionally immature for her age because she didn't receive proper discipline as a child
-tries to make others jealous (usually the ones who ignore her)
-unnecessarily competitive with other females

She has to stop on her own. We cannot change anyone but ourselves. Some needy women have Borderline personality disorder.

Answer 4

Needy often equals damaged in someway. If she is able to recognise the neediness then seeing a councellor may help.
Itis difficult to deal with if someone is too needy.....so never bescared dto get to the root cause...could be a hangover from childhood or a bad relationship. Help is there.....seek it out.

Answer 5

IMO, a "needy" woman is one that has emotional insecurities and feels the need to be with her man/husband/bf at all times, wants to know where he is at all times, what he's thinking at all times, needs to be told constantly that he loves her, thinks only of her and wants to spend time only with her, etc.

Before I was married, I date a couple of girls like that. It got old quick and I ditched them. I couldn't take the smothering.

I'm not sure it can be stopped. If it can be, it has to be on the woman's end and she needs to get her emotional house in order. The first step is the guy setting down and calmly telling her that she's smothering him, that he needs a little space, that just because he doesn't want to be with her 24-7, that doesn't mean he doesn't care about her but she needs to get over the sensation or idea that she has to be his universe.

Answer 6

It depends on who's calling you needy and what they mean by it. Some people mean they want more time by themselves, others use it as an insult to undermine your self esteem and make you more intimidated. Ask the person who said it to you what they mean, and what they would like you to change about your behavior. You can't just assume anything unless they are very clear about their expectations.

Answer 7

A needy woman?
Have you ever heard of co-dependency?
It means that due to the fact that many of us were raised in what is now recognized as disfunctional families (no blame involved here, as most parents were also raised by such disfunctional parents who didn't know better and worked so hard, etc.) we all lacked the love, attention, the proper emotional, spiritual and even physical nourishment that would enable us to grow into the mature, self-reliant, confident person that we could have otherwise become and this lack in our lives produced in us a necessity to rely on another to give us what our deepest natural instincts so desperately needed from the start.
This transformed in a sense of "void", a hole in our soul that constantly needs filling up, and unfortunately, most girls get that sensation of being filled of all those needs whenever a man gives them a little attention, and it becomes too easy for them to misinterpret a passing fling or flirt for what they so crave for; someone to fill that "hole" and love them like a perfect mom and dad should have loved them from the beginning.
Many books have been written about it and it is possible to heal ourselves as we learn to really love ourselves.
This learning is important to acheive before we enter into serious relationship as it will avoid a lot of confusion, heartache and headaches that giving ourselves to another for the wrong reason would bring.
We must learn who we are and what we really look for in a partner.
He can not just be a human "plug" for the "void" within.
He must be an equally mature human being,
who has gone through the tidiest process of growing to love himself
and respect others and the two must understand that they come together to fulfill one another only in the sense that they can both contribute to the relationship or partnership by being able to take care of each other in a million little ways but not as a means to their own happiness.
Each one must already have found that on their own before they begin life's journey with the other.
Do you understand?
It becomes real clear one day and then, you wish you would have understood before...
and when that day arrives for women who have gotten married or attached to men, too young, many come to "hate" the man whom they now feel took advantage of their "innocence" or "ignorance" and the divorce rates keep rising.
I wish that we could teach that sort of stuff in the schools but they are too busy teaching geometry, algebra, geography and other many things that young students might never even use again once they are out of the school system and enter the next phase of the system which... (we won't go there today!!!)
To resume, "needy" is when we feel it necessary to have another person in our lives in order to feel "whole" when we should feel this "wholeness" within ourselves. I have found that the power of prayers have been the most significant help in my finding out all that I needed to in order to achieve this feeling of "independency"
where I no longer felt the need to be "needy".
To conclude, I can say that the difference between being in a relationship because of this feeling of "needing the other person"
and being in a relationship for the purpose of sharing two lives between two adults who will do what it takes to stick to each other in love and deep respect,
is like day and night.
Teri

Answer 8

A needy person is someone who needs lots of attention and reassurance I think. It's very off putting in a relationship particularly. Very wearing. It would put me off someone quite quickly. It shows little self esteem.

Answer 9

Wow. Kinda hard to add on to what Teri said. That's pretty complete. Only thing is I know how you feel if that is your problem. I am needy. I have a "hole" in my soul. I can't explain it. I hug my wife, she hugs me. I always feel that she's just doing it to make herself feel ok and I don't believe she does it b/c she loves me. I can never get enough hugs. I think about it and soak up every ounce of feeling I'm getting at the time. I don't know why I feel this way. My daughter gives me hugs and its the same way. I love her and want her to believe that I love her. I always doubt that she will know it.

Back to your problem. I think finding someone to talk to is the way out. From personal experience, it's helping me deal w/things. So for what it's worth, I really feel your pain and wish you the best. I know there are people in our lives (yours and mine) that love us we need to look for/recognize them as such and accept that someone can love us as we are warts in all. God bless you.

Answer 10

I am a needy woman.
Was born that way.
My husband has learned to accept it.

My good qaulities however make up for it.

Just as long as he gives me the time and attention I need, I in return do what I can to make his life easier.