my dad is cheating on my mom?? what shoud i do??

Question

hes having sex with prostitutes..hes been doing that with a lot of girls and for more than 2 years, ive known about it....shoud i tell my mom???what else i should do??id rather see them break up than see my mom look as if her husband is very faithful to her....its not easy to tell the truth...what should i do???

Answer 1

Tell your mother, she deserves to know.
It might hurt her but it also might hurt her even more if she finds out her child has been keeping the truth about their father from her.

Answer 2

First and foremost you really have no idea what you are getting into.
You do not get involved EXCEPT to talk to your father.
If you cannot keep quiet any longer that is your direction.

Again, you do not know what is going on here. It is fully possible that you are mistaken. It is also fully possible that your mother knows or suspects ,or, that they have an arrangement. All items you have no knowledge of.

It is fully possible as well that they are fine with the deal as is and your getting involved will only cause a divorce.
You do not want to be the one responsible for that.

The one overriding thing here is this. As you approach adulthood you need to stop the playground games of going behind any ones back about someone else's behavior. An adult will deal with the person doing the poor behavior.
Talk to your father . This is his problem not yours.
To do anything else makes you partially guilty for any
bad consequence.

The tell your mom advice is flawed. It is what school kids do about someones boy fried. This is an adult problem with adult solutions.
TALK TO YOUR FATHER. ITS THE ONLY CORRECT MOVE.
If you cannot talk to him about it you are way out of line to get your mother involved.

Answer 3

That's a tough one--I'm so sorry, but I'm glad you have perspective about the ordeal. Could you talk with your Dad first?, and are you sure your Mom doesn't know--you'd be very surprised to find out what people know, and just don't want to deal with. I don't have an answer for you, I wish I did--
If it were myself---I'd confront my Dad, and go from there. I think honesty is the best policy, and would tell my Mom. You are really cought in the middle, and that's not fair. Good Luck ; )

Answer 4

You may want to talk to your father first, about what you have discovered. Encourage him to do the right thing and talk to your mother about it. She may be hurt (or she might even suspect something) but how is she going to feel if your father comes home with Aids or another disease and transmits it to your mom. If he will not talk to her, tell him you will...... If that does not work talk to your mother, Tell her you suspect your father is seeing another woman, (don't mention prostitutes, or the number), chances are she will ask why you may think this, then give some detail without going into it fully and then let her investigate........ I think if she realized you knew for two years and didn't tell her it would embarass her and make her feel like a fool. Your father has placed you in a terrible situation, in the middle. But if you keep his secret you are just as much to blame because you are accepting it. Good luck. And once everything comes to light your mom will need your support. Take care

Answer 5

Your mom might not want to know. Some women do not want to know if their husband is cheating; it is too much to handle.

You could ask her if she would want to know: Tell her you saw this situation on a tv show and were thinking about it. This way you find out how she feels.

Your father is selfish to burden you with this. You should not have to make decisions such as these.

Answer 6

I've been through this, not the prostitute part, my dad had a girlfriend. What I did was show up at her house when he was there one night, in your case you might have to follow him to a hotel. He can't deny it that way. Then I gave him an ultimatum. He could tell my mother or I would. She deserves to know. It is very dangerous for her if he is sleeping with prostitutes. Take her health into consideration. I understand the dilemma you are having but please think of your mother on this one, not your dad. It will be hard but your mother deserves to know that her health is in jeopardy. Good luck.

Answer 7

How good is your relationship with your dad? Can you talk to him? First speak with him, tell him you are aware of what he is doing and that it is not acceptable to you. Second tell him that he needs to call a family meeting and tell your mom (with you present for moral support for you and your mom together) but if he chooses to not do so you will tell your mother. Thirdly encourage him to seek help from a therapist and support group if you think you and your mom can forgive him and save your family. If you cant talk to your dad write him a letter with this same information. I think it is important to address him first to develop honest communication skills for yourself.

Answer 8

I would pose it to your father to tell your mother himself and if he doesn't then tell her. They should not be living a lie as they are and he should not be keeping her in the dark about what he's really doing behind her back. She deserves to know the truth if not from him directly then from you. This however is only what I would do in this situation, it is not what I am saying would necessarily be right for you.

Answer 9

First of all you have to make sure he is really doing it. Remember he might catch something and transmite it to ur mom. If I were you, I'll tell her. (You are thinking about you and not the safety and happiness of your mom.) She is living a lie and you know it. If you want to know how that feels, put urself in her place. Wouldn't you want somebody to tell you? If she catches a disease, you are going to regret not saying anything.

Answer 10

Tell your mom she has a right to know. My wife cheated on me and I know what it feels like. Your mom needs to know.
p.s. The man who slept with my wife is Paul 951-529-0994 call him and tell him he is a jerk.