My Husband has been with Sex Workers Since Jun 06,Help Please.?

Question

Hi all,My Husband Confessed he was Seeing a Sex Worker for 4 Months &Last Night he Told me He has been seeing Sex Workers Since Last June,I am Gob Smacked,We were still having sex in that Time,I asked how many women has he been with and He said about 20-25,What the Hell am I Going to Do,OK Some might say its my Fault,but we had a Talk one day and I asked him was Sex the Most Important Thing in a Marriage and he said NO,I wasnt very Interested in Sex,But we still had it and I thought he was Happy with That,How could I be So Wrong,So the Next Question was Why he saw The one Woman 4 Times and the Reply was she was the Best one there,They met up about 6 Times after they slept Together and He had her Phone Number,How can I EVER Trust him again,He wants me to Forgive Him but I really Feel ill when I think about Him and The Whores he has been With and not to Mention the STD"s,I could have got something from them,What would you Do?????

Answer 1

Guilt....is a horrible thing to have to live with. Ask yourself if he is trully "Guilt Riden"?? For most males, because not all males are Men, the "Attraction" is not just a Female body being available for him. There is also the "Dirty Factor". In other words, doing what you shouldn't, there is a certain attraction here that males have a hard time with. Prostitutes have the willingness, the time, the knowledge and the attair and in some cases the vocabulary, to work with. (For one moment, I don't condone this sort of activity by any means!! But I want to explain it as best I know of it.)
Medically speaking, males have erections about 9-10 times a night, during sleep. And it's worse when their awake, aware, and females are all about. In most situations it comes down to "Just wanting a release" which seems to be never ending. But then later on, they start wanting "The" something more titalating to accomodate a better release. There in lies, the need for a Prostitute. What she wears, is a billboard to what she is selling. The more provocative the attire the more/better action provided, and....they know it works. For a price, they will be whatever you want them to be and say whatever is needed for the best outcome. There is "Your" Fantasy come true!! For a price, "Release" becomes a dream come true. Besides that, there is no draw back, no relationship attached, essentually NO responsibility either, You got what you wanted and she got what she wanted. Except in some cases YOU bring home something that can turn very bad, real quick!
So....where does all of this leave you, the Wife??
Does this mean you have been doing things wrong all this time?? Absolutely NOT!! You have been there for good and bad, washed his clothes, bore his Children, cleaned his house. So many things that I haven't room here to write.
So....what is the answer you seek?? I asked the question in the beginning, is he trully "Guilt-riden"?? If he is, then there is room for alot of things, firstly, seek a "Full Medical" exam, blood work, the whole 9 yards. Then a "Physicological" exam to determine the reason for his actions and what he can do to change the way he thinks. And that's just the beginning!
If on the other hand, you feel he is not trully "Guilt-riden", I would suggest that you go and find yourself a "Man".
I want to make sure that you understand, that you are NOT at fault here!! This is your Husbands Problem. A problem he has with "How he Thinks". A true man would never allow his "Little Head" to do all the thinking for the "Big Head". Also, where is HIS self-respect, HIS personal Integrity?? This is a very difficult situation and it will require a great deal of personal fortitude on your part. So I wish you well.

Answer 2

in the starting up, those women human beings at the prompt are not "sex workers", they're WHORES. I hate political correctness. enable's call a spade a spade. the first issue you want to do is get your self examined for STDs and then insist that he get examined. in spite of in case you're taking position unfavourable, you'll nevertheless favor to get checked for decades because you would possibly want to turn effective years down the line. 2d, you should finished a touch severe soul searching about even if you must save the relationship going. no you may attempt this yet you. 0.33, IMO, the relationship has likely been mortally wounded. in case you settle on you want to proceed with him, you both favor counseling. you want to have candid talks with him. Does he want to stay at the same time? He should be brutally honest and if he would not imagine he can stay honest, he needs to bypass. do not scream or yell, be calm yet you want honest solutions from him. Fourth, IF both easily one of you settle on to stay at the same time, you want him to do not ignore that that's it, no more beneficial whores and in case you even capture a whiff of him dishonest back, he's lengthy gone and all his resources will be out at the front porch and the locks replaced. that's going to take a lot of time, artwork, speaking and rebuilding have self assurance for that to artwork. It should not be straightforward in spite of the undeniable fact that it may be finished once you're keen and he can save his pants zipped. sturdy success!

Answer 3

Kick him to the curb. This trust cannot be repaired because he will keep doing it.

Answer 4

Dump him....