I'm so disappointed with my marriage life. My husband have changed after I took my 6 month old daughter away wit me but I know he changed bcus he doesn't wants to lose his daugter. Before he rarely listen or pay attention to me. Always reminds not to do what his parents don't like. "Eat what they cook, do what they want or they'll get mad." I'm trying my best to stay with my in laws even deep in my heart I wish to have my own family. He said he lose sex interest in me after I gave birth but he still ask me to do wat he wants when he needs it and that's it, doesn't want to touch me. Is it right that he loves his family more than me? he didn't tell me straight out but I got his point from his words and also his actions.
2007-03-16 23:12:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My feelings for his have changed. I respected him and love him to death when we were dating. After married he treated me not as a husband loves his wife. I found out he cheated on me b4 we married, not a man that I once thought.
2007-03-16 23:20:23 · update #1
staying wit him bcus I know he needs his daughter and I want my daughter to have both parents.
2007-03-16 23:21:18 · update #2
I would leave this man if I was you, and never look back.
2007-03-16 23:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound sooo sad. we all deserve to have love, respect and honesty and we need to start with loving, respecting and being honest with ourselves. You say you wish you had your family,Your husband and your daughter is your family. You need to move your family out of the in laws house if you want your marriage to have a real chance.You know in your heart who and what your husband is about and he if can change to make you and your daughter number one in his life. You and your daughter deserve nothing less. So don't cheat yourself.
rather you stay or go, his relationship with his daughter will be what he makes it. If he has lost interest in you sexuality that's his problem, don't make it yours. Again, you deserve to be loved and respected, by pleasing his needs and wants you are telling him its OK for him to treat less than you deserve. So take a deep breath and look him in the eyes and say no! I want more than this in my life. Make some choices.
2007-03-17 00:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got a mama's boy on your hands and the mother never think the daughter in-law is good enough for their little boy. About the sex your husband does not love you and does not respect you as his wife or as the mother of her of his child You need to start over with someone who will love you for who you are. Try and stay away from mama's boys.
2007-03-16 23:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. it sounds like you are in a very unhappy situation. Really you are getting nothing from this marriage that is good. he says he doesn't find you sexy. there are other men who will. The longer you carry on the harder it will be to leave. Everyone has a right to be loved and treated with respect. your husband sounds like a cruel and selfish bully. you need to look after yourself first. then you can be the best mum to your daughter.
2007-03-16 23:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for ur problem. anyways I still need more info. to tell u a solution. jus talk to ur husband quietly and explain him the things u can do and u cannot with reasons. Also ask him his expectations over u. U seem to be very calm despite all these problems thats nice , jus continue it and acquire more patience. Also take care of ur daughter . Best wishes. I will pray for u
2007-03-16 23:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jsut forget every thing and Start Loving the people and thing He Loves, Try attrect his like you used to attract him before marriege. Its may take Long time but I am sure that someday He has to come back in your arms.
Make food for him which he like the most.
You can do lot of things to attract your lover back to you.
be kind and be patient.
you will win your love.
Be good to everyone.
Wish you Best of Luck
2007-03-16 23:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Umar Alvi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u already have the answer ur looking for, u need to seperate the ties it will hurt at first, but u sound like a strong person, who will prevail, as for stating because he needs ur child nonsense, that ancient history couples 50 years ago did that (stayed for the children) not any more this is the 20th century....good luck
2007-03-17 00:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by neici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love make us happier than sadder,but marriage is against.Only true loves make two person live together happily forever.I think your husband is a selfish,greedy man.You should ask him what you want to do and not to do.If he disagree it,you should move out a short time to think about your love.This marriage is worth sacrificing your happy,your life.
2007-03-16 23:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by christina hoang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced my ex after 1 year of marriage because of the same reason. Fortunately, we didn't have kids. If it's easier for you to raise your daughter while being married to him, don't divorce until she's older. Refuse to have the weird sex he wants, and if he wants to look elsewhere, don't give a damn.
2007-03-16 23:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Logan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im married and i love my wife very2 much, im telling you this as a man, if a man can treat you like that, i doubt very much that he loves you..coz i couldnt do that to my wife..it hurts me to see her hurt. So take your time and think about what you want to do..try and talk to him heart to heart..and if he doesnt listen, maybe he has no heart.
2007-03-17 00:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Mikey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counsult a marriage counsellor. Maybe time to split. Let the professional help you.
2007-03-16 23:15:59 · answer #11 · answered by Bright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋