my wife has a huge fantasy about being with other women. she sometimes dreams that we have a threesome together or just having my watch. i find it kind of hot but if i allow anything to come of this could it affect our wonderful marriage of 10 years or would everything be just fine? i'm ok either way as long as our relationship together doesn't get damaged.
2007-03-16 23:06:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
A buddy of mine had the same thing. He and his wife found another woman via ad in the newpaper or something. He said the trick was to find someone neutral that you may never see again if you wish. He also said that you must set rules with the wife first, i.e. you can only kiss your wife on the mouth, you can only c*m in her, etc...
Some people have all the luck!
2007-03-16 23:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by Big Daddy Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think twice when you said it's ok for you as long as your relationship with your wife isn't damaged...or else you might regret for the rest of your life. Your wife is your possession. Are you going to share her with another woman? C'mmon... this is absolutely more than crazy. Discover what makes her have such huge desire for other women. Examine yourself if you've been a real good hubby to her all this while. No offense, but I seriously think if she's not satisfied with you as a man, she'd look elsewhere for satisfaction and that includes finding satisfaction in women.
2007-03-17 06:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have been married for 10 years, if she was a lesbian she would have known by now. Also, 10 years is al ong time and you should want to spice things up right around now. Just make sure to have a threesome with a stranger, otherwise choosing someone you know could impact your relationship not only with that person but with each other.
2007-03-17 06:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a desire for women too...
I vote threesome. Find a girl that you guys both agree on, and make it happen.
I can only dream of having a threesome to be quite honest, so don't let your poor wife miss out on a passionate adventure!
2007-03-17 06:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she has expressed her desire to realize a fantasy its because she really wants it to come true. You should let her try, it can be fun for both of you if you dont have problems with that and if you do then you dont have to do anything that you dont like but talk to her about it.
The least that all this could mean is that she only wants to make you horny talking to you about fantasies she doesnt think youll agree to but i think this is not the case.
2007-03-17 06:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by pancho_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this my husband??? Hmmm, exact same story, same number of years married. Weird. Hey, send her to me, I will make her day and you and my husband can sit back w/some popcorn and enjoy j/k...unless you are my husband, and then I would be having sex w/myself...anyhooo.
This is nothing to worry yourself with, good lord, she married you for a reason, but she is bisexual and has a need for a little womanly lovin'. I HIGHLY doubt she would ever want to leave you for her, just let her do it, I promise you'll start having sex like you've never dreamed of.
And unlike previous answers, it has nothing to do with you or your performance, as far as satisfying her. Women who are bisexual have a drive and a hunger for intimacy and sex w/women, it is no reflection on you as a man. I think my husband is the best sex partner, but I love the way I feel w/a woman too. They are completely separate feelings.
You guys can e-mail me if you want to talk.
2007-03-17 10:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her keep this as just a fantasy, encourage her to talk but don't drive her away into trying this and destroying your marriage. I agree, the thought drives me wild too, but my wife wouldn't try this - I know her too well.
Fantasy and misplaced desire may stem from the insecurities and unsettling phase of youth.
Hopefully, you will still be married in another ten years.
2007-03-17 06:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by Modern Major General 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women--most people, really--have homoerotic fantasies. I doubt she will leave you and go off with some woman. More likely, she's observed the trend of lipstick lesbianism and thinks all men find it hot, and so wants to keep you interested :-) If it's solely sexual, it's nothing to worry about.
2007-03-17 06:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just two words. Ross Gellar. Sometimes we have to learn from TV.
2007-03-17 06:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by Wiseguy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
your relationship is already damanged on both sides and in the middle
please pray as I did -Jesus help me, forgive my sins and come into my heart to be my friend, amen
he said he would in Revelation 3:19&20 and have your wife read it too
and Romans chapter 1 that tells we seek our own gender when we are unthankful and willing to worship the created instead of the creator. prayin for you both-David
2007-03-17 06:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋