if you are a parent of a rebelling teen, what will you do in order to lessen the effects of teenage rebellion?

Question

please explain your answer and justify.

Answer 1

ground them.

Answer 2

I was a rebellious teen too! My parents were very strict and hardly let me out the house, so I made sure I was able to have a social life in other more deceitful ways such as - sneaking out my bedroom window at ungodly hours of the morning and lieing etc(trust me the list goes on). They even tried to get the Police on my back, which to their horror had absolutely no effect on me what so ever!! Long story short - all I needed was a little understanding, a little leeway and to be able to talk about anything with them and i definitely would NOT have done half the horrible things I did! I talk to my kids about EVERYTHING even if it makes me want to scream out loud!! At the end of the day they are very comfortable approaching me about ANYTHING and I thank my naughtiness for this as there is no way in hell I'd want my kids to do to me what I did to my folks! On the other hand, if your child doesn't feel comfortable in talking about this with you then maybe you have a friend or family member that may. Just ask your child what makes them comfortable and go from there. I hope this helps in some way and GOOD LUCK.

Answer 3

Show more love and understanding; however, the rebelling teen need not have been the issue - if you show your children the right path whilst they are still infants, they are less likely to depart from it.

Straightening out a rebellious teen, now there's a different matter.

Get them on-side; show more love than you think is required, but allow breathing space; answer their questions honestly.

Answer 4

I was a rebel teen and I wanted to be different and to find out who i was. I did not want to go along with what other people thought was good for me if i wasn't convinced. I have not had the experience of looking at it from a parent's stand point but from a rebel teen, i think i would have listened more to my parents if i felt that they respected and listened to my views. teenagers do a lot of things to "find themselves". let your teen express do what he/she has to do to find out who they are. If you respect and listen to their view points that may be radically different from yours, you stand a better chance of winning them over and actually being able to have some control on how radically rebellious they turn out. The last thing you want to do is to play the "i know better because i am older" parent. From experience, it creates the opposite effect that you really want

Answer 5

I think it will be unconditional love. This one book that I especially love, its called "Spiritual Parenting" by Hugh & Gayle Prather.
"The cardinal rule of spiritual parenting is: Know your child. Knowing calms you. Knowing comes from listening and watching, not from deciding, classifying or categorizing. Knowing is an open, ongoing process that is able to see change as it occurs, whereas making a decision about your child's character or personality type can blind you to what is happening now."
"Observant parents learn not to add to their children's feelings but to help them become more aware of the ones they already have. Healing takes place from the inside out; it cannot be imposed through disapproval and irritation, which tend to harden the behaviours"
And this one I love the most: "How do we bestow such an inheritance on our children? We love them; understand them; respect them; honor them; we commit absolutely to never losing sight of their basic nature, no matter what age or stage they are in. We do this, even when as adolescents and adults they forget who we are. Perhaps they turn against us for unjustifiable reasons. Even then, we don't turn against them. We do not forget who they are. WE DO NOT FORGET WHO WE ARE."

Answer 6

you need to truely bond before the rebellion age hits. Teen angst is caused from insecurities they feel their parents could never understand. If they don't already have that trust and bond then they are going to go through it no matter what you do.

Answer 7

i would pray GOD in jesus name to ask him to help this rebelling teen.he would surely change the teen because he love all of us.

Answer 8

counter-intelligence, reverse-psychology, books

start with discipline... strong hard severe... with love implicit in every act.

Answer 9

it's impossible
all you have to do is talk to them...and ask them what's wrong...don't use tricks..they're probably one step ahead of you

Answer 10

I just give in.