Wot do i do????

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What do i do??...................?
bought my daughter a nice blue prom dress from DEBENHAMS 8 weeks ago! one girl who is going in the same car has gone and bought the same dress but in red with exact same accessories!! this girl always copies my daughter!! anyway on our reciept it says we have 28 days for a refund or exchange and obviously it has gone past that!Does any1 know if i can still change it ? should i change it?? my daughter is fed up now?? wot do you think???

Answer 1

Don't return it! Encourage your daughter to never back away from something because someone else beat her to it. Even if it is a prom dress. Tell her she will be the most beautiful one there. The other girl is going to let the dress wear her. Your daughter will shine the the princess she is. Working that dress. I personally would wear the dress even if I knew someone else had it in a different color. Confidence is the key. A person who has to copy someone else is insecure.

Answer 2

Your daughter is going to look beautful in the dress, regardless of what the other girl is wearing. Her beauty and the fun of the night should not be wrapped up in what she is wearing. If she truly believes that she will look less attractive because she is wearing a dress that is similar to someone else's the battle is over anyway because all prom dresses are pretty much the same cut and design this season.

Most likely her make-up, hair and corsage will be different and she will look unique and lovely in a dress that she knows she chose first and looks great in and is comfortable in. It is not exactly the same dress (the color will be different) and it would probably be easier and cheaper to purchase different acessories if you feel you need to.

The most important thing is that your daughter realizes that this girl is obviously copying because she admires your daughter, take it as a compliment, not an insult. It is hard to do this because every girl wants to be seen as unique and special in a very individualistic way, but she should realize that this "copycat" obviously does see this and is giving her a compliment even if it is unconcious.

She should be comfortable in this flattery and see it as an opportunity to have a new friend. When they get in the car, they can joke about planning it this way. Hey, one of the best parts of the night could be the chance to have a picture of the "twins!"

Although I really don't recommend this idea, it is an option:
If she and you really can't get over it, just have your daughter "accidently" spill a drink on her at first opportunity, now the dresses are definitely different and your daughter can be confident she looks better.

Answer 3

Okay, take it back with the receipt. Explain to the manager what happened. Take your daughter with you and have her cry. Maybe, because the season is not over, they will take back the dress if you exchange it for one of the same price or higher. if not, try and take it to a tailor( a fancy one) and see if they can alter it to make it different looking(hemline or something easy like that) if having the same dress as someone else will make her unhappy, then you should try a little something. The prom is one of the few occasions that a girl has these days to feel like a princess and it should not be taken away. If nothing else works, go to the other girls mother and explain that your daughter had the dress first. Don't get angry though, maybe you can convince her to get her daughter to change in the dress that she bought.

Answer 4

If all else fails, put the dress up on ebay to sell, or another website more exclusive to clothes, judging that it's prom time it'll probably sell soon if the dress is gorgeous, and considering from where I live, I've never seen or heard of a Debenhams, and look online at little boutique dresses where they may make all their dresses exclusively, it may cost a bit more, but if you really want you're daughter to be unique it may be the only way to go, or even to little shops into town.

Another thing to consider is if you have some time before prom consider going to a local college that has a fashion arts major, or even a costuming for theatre major and put up a wanted ad for an undergrad student to make prom dress for money- will supply materials for work, and pay them to make the dream dress of your daughters. Considering it's a college student they'll do ANYTHING for some money, and it'll be truely unique, and everything your daughter wishes for.
And the college student will be able to put it on their resume, and are normally looking for jobs like that. My friend and I designed and made my friends prom dress, and used it as our final project for costuming.

Best of Luck!

Answer 5

If she really doesn't want to wear it then try and change it, I'm sure they'll be sympathetic but, three things, 1. she bought it first so why should she change it, 2. it's a different colour and 3. I know it's annoying when somone keeps copying but, when you think about it, it's the strongest form of flattery, that someone wants to look exactly like you, enough to buy clothes the same.

Maybe your daughter could offer to go shopping with her, then she could discreetly offer some tips for her own style?

Answer 6

Hi,
Do you know something I would rather prefer you to go and visit Debenhams and ask them if they'll change it or not, If not then i think you should buy a dress without letting that other girl know that what type of dress you bought for your daughter...I hope you get a good solution..and best of luck:)

Answer 7

Hi!

I'd go into Debenhams and tell 'em exactly what you've told us, and I'm sure that as long as you buy another dress from them, they'll exchange it.

Alternatively, they may offer you a credit note.

Hope this helps!!

Anyway, I'm sure your daughter will look gorgeous on the day!!

Answer 8

That's a new one on me, I didn't know there were proms in the UK. We called them leaving parties. Another import from the USA no doubt. If it makes you both feel better, change the dress and hope nobody else has bought one.

Answer 9

I would try to change it. Maybe the clerk will be understanding and let you switch it fo something else.

If the tags are still on it I think ou would have a better chance.

Answer 10

im sure if you explain your problem to the store manager they will understand and probably let you exchange it if you still have the tags and sales slip - good luck - tell her to keep her new dress to herself if she does get a new one. If you can't exchange it get a shall or scarf to wear with it and maybe a tierra - and don't tell the other girl.