theres a girl in my school and she wants to be a fashion designer but so do im and im a guy and im also twelve

Question

i don't want to brag but my designs are pretty awesome but this girl is really getting on my nerves because she saying that my designs are crap and she can do everything better but she hasn't seen any of my designs except for when i just started out(Which were really rubbish then) and just to make me look like that im a designer she starts asking me all these questions like how many designers are there under the name of Chloe!! why am i supposed to know that then every body laughed at her for asking me that but still if she says anything again how should i respond!!!

Answer 1

To be honest. The reason this girl is giving you stick is probably because she's threatened that someone (you) might take some of her limelight. At secondary school we all go through a difficult phase of trying to find our own individual identity and place in the world and can get defensive if we feel we have to share the limelight - especially if someone is any good at the activity we have chosen to associate our identity with.

I can see what others are saying in terms of not worrying about it and not letting her get to you. However, even though it was longer ago than I care to think about, I do remember that sometimes you just need to put people in their place at school to get them to leave you alone!

I would be very cool and calm and simply say to her "perhaps you should spend more time concentrating on your own designs rather than revising statistics about other designers like some kind of train spotter!"

Or

"If you're as good as you say you are, why are you trying so hard to prove yourself to everyone? Are you trying to convince us or yourself?"

Or

"When will you realise that fashion design is about setting trends, not trying to be like those who are already out there?"

Or

"Why waste your time worshipping other designers? Can't you come up with any of your own ideas?"

Or

"If you're so great, why are you acting so threatened about what I'm up to? Surely you shouldn't be interested in little old me!"

Or

"Oh ten points to you dear. I didn't realise this was a competition!"

Answer 2

it's too early to tell who is the better designer. you're both too young and still a long way off. go for your designing dreams if you're really into it and tell her that you two should meet 10 or more years from now. besides, knowing who the designers of chloe are doesn't make one a better designer. it's the creativity and designs that matter. don't show her that you're affected. it will make her stop.

Answer 3

You should follow your dreams if that is what you want to do don't let anyone else tell you that you are not good enough. They are just jealous that you want to be a designer. Good on you a friend of my daughter is a guy and he is at the top University in London training to be a designer. Just ignore her next time she wants to put you down. Good luck in the future.

Answer 4

Fashion Designing is a open section 4 men & women.So enyone can join it.
Also about that girl, maybe she's feeling jelours 4 u . (B care full)so u have 2 respond her sweetly, try 2 make her as a friend of ur's.

Answer 5

Are all your designs still only sketches?

Produced some finished articles. If you are as good as you say, then your peers wil decide who out of the two of you is best.
You can also start selling finished items, which is a big financial bonus.

Answer 6

I agree with above answer, Its best for you to deal with the critisicm and bitchiness , if your serious about being a designer, you will find out that everyone is out for you, bitching about your ideas, All designers do it, sorry to say :):)
Just nod along and why not ***** about hers?

Answer 7

You really need to ignore her. Have you ever watched Project Runway? Notice how the ones that react to the annoying people always end up looking just as dumb (ie Vincent and Andrea)?

Answer 8

Be the better man in this. Respect her opinion and take her critique. Fashion disigners must go through the same thing. Dont compete with her, just let her know that you want this and her immatureness does not matter. Hope that helps?

Answer 9

she's probabbly jealous that her designs arent gud n you're gonna make it big whereas she wont. anyways if she does all this again say these things that'll quitten her up a bit.if she responds like "me jealous?" then you say that well who wants to any chloe people arent gonna ask me that ! they are gonna ask about my designs

Answer 10

Just don't mind her. Don't compete. Show your designs to her and ask her what she feels about it. If she tells you something that made you upset, just don't mind it. If that is what you really want, go for it. Just follow your dreams.