My three week old is always crying for me to pick her up.....and I do because I hate to hear her crying.?

Question

How can I get her out of this habbit without letting her cry until she turns purple?

Answer 1

Right now your baby is adjusting to life outside your uterus. She needs to be held and loved. She can not be spoiled at this age so there is no harm in picking her up. Babies at this age cry for a reason: hunger,Discomfort(hot, cold wet, dirty),anxiety(loss of companionship). She was with you 24 hours a day 7 days a week up until 3 weeks ago. Give her time to adjust. She needs your cuddles, your warmth, the sound of your heart beating. She will only be this small for a very short time enjoy it. Hold her, snuggle her,and love her.If you need time for yourself that's understandable. Feed her, burp her, change her, swaddle her, rock her to sleep, and then lay her down. It will save you the guilt and her the tears.

Answer 2

See an osteopath. My newborn would cry, feed every 2-3 hours and would not go in the cradle to sleep. After seeing an osteopath, he went to sleep for 4 hours that night, then 6 hours and now he sleeps 7 hours at night and he is only 11 weeks old. He also self settles now (I could not even put him down earlier and it was emotionally draining) and he is a much happier baby. Osteos are very gentle so don't be concerned. Also, I always wrap my baby and used to give him pats on the side sometimes if he was unsettled. Now, I just wrap him and leave the room because he doesn't even need me to settle (hooray). There is nothing wrong with hating to hear your baby cry. We are human and they are trying to tell you something - babies always cry for a reason. Other reasons can be that they are hungry (not getting enough milk) , hot or cold. I don't believe in control crying and I have 3 beautiful children. Try reading "Children are people too" by Australian Author Dr Louise Porter. THE best book for assisting with behaviour and sleep. I hope that helps.

Answer 3

Pick her up.
She is only 3 weeks from being in constant, close contact with you.
She is in a scary new world, and you are not going to spoil her by doing this at her age.
What you will do is foster a sense of security, that you are there for her, and eventually she'll need less picking up.
You hate to hear it because you have learned to recognize the need in the cry, and your need to respond by picking her up.
Oprah recently had a lady on her show with an unusually acute sense of hearing.
She made a CD teaching recognition of a baby's cries, there are 5 basic cries-for eating, being held, being changed, being sleepy, and being angry.
As an experienced teacher of special needs infants, I can tell you that this woman is totally accurate.
Go to Oprah's web site to get her name. I think every new Mom needs this tape so that she & little one don't have to learn the hard way by constant trial and error.
She had 4 new Moms on the show, and with flawless accuracy she quickly taught them & Oprah to recognize the type of cry.The sounds are universal to babies all around the world, it's pretty incredible to watch the show if you order an archive of it.
They were enabled to immediately understand the need, and address it before the child was getting upset to the point of meltdown.
Good question, and congratulations:)

Answer 4

I have three small children. You can NOT spoil a 3 week old. You can hold her as much as you like. Do you think that she is colic? if so, consult your doctor on ways to make her feel better.
Some babies (my third) really were attached to my heart beat. They are so used to hearing it in the womb. If she lays against your chest or your husband's does she stop crying?
Again, it is not possible to spoil a 3 week old. That really can't happen until 6 months or so.

Answer 5

When your baby cries she is telling you something, she is hungry, tired, wet etc etc.
In your case you have a baby that is having a tough time being seperated from her mum, 9 months cocooned in your tummy, then all of a sudden bright lights, loud noises and that feeling of safety gone! I would cry too.....
She is still so tiny, when she cries pick her up, give her the comfort and security she is asking for. She will soon feel secure enough for you to be able to pop her down for a while, safe in the knowledge that you will be back.
Have you thought about buying a sling so you can give her the close comfort she is needing and still get on with normal light chores? I bought one for my last child and it literally changed my life, she was content being close to me and I could finally get on with the jobs that so desperately needed doing.
Good luck

Answer 6

Pick her up! Babies need to be held, and it does not spoil them if you do respond to these cries. She is building trust in you and needs to know that you will be there for her when you need her. If you do not respond to her cries, she will think you have abandoned her. Eventually she will learn that even when you are not holding her/she can't see you... you are near by and will respond to her cries for food, a clean diaper, attention, love... and she wont need to be held as much.

You can't stand to hear her cry because mothers are genetically programmed to feel that way. When a mother hears her infant cry, a rush of emotions and hormones are released, and we want nothing more than to make our baby feel OK again. It's how the human race has survived. :)

best of luck!! The first 6-8 weeks are the hardest!

Answer 7

I don't think it's really a *habit*, babies just need to be held, cuddled, talked to, sung to.... it's part of what makes them feel secure. Take this opportunity to strengthen the bond between the two of you, and enjoy it... it won't last forever, I promise!

She's still going through lots of changes, and needs that secure feeling of you being close to her. Sometimes, positioning her in a punkin seat so that she can see and hear you as you go about your activities, and reconnecting with an occasional touch and your voice will soothe her urge to be picked up. Sing to her, read to her, just reaffirm that you're near.

Most of all, have fun and enjoy your little miracle!!
:D

Answer 8

she is 3 weeks old she communicates by crying...

1/ make sure she is not hungry
2/ make sure she is not wet/dirty
3/ make sure she is not cold/hot

then if she still cry and you cant find anything wrong..give her a cuddle..and then put her down..she might just need to be comforted...

if you let her cry till she is purple in the face..she will learn that she cant hear me...and so she will go full blast till you come...
:)

so go and comfort her..she is only a wee one...:)


some soft music will help calm her..dim the lights..

wrap her tightly like they show you in hospital...in a bunny rug...so she doesnt get afraid...:)

Answer 9

undesirable toddler! undesirable you! some issues that have labored for me: cut back the stimulation. some infants can not take the consistent barrage of television, radio, canines barking, people passing her around. overlook the pacifier, no longer each and every toddler likes one. attempt wrapping her like a burrito, so as that her legs and arms can not flail around. protecting her like a soccer ought to help positioned some stress on her tummy if she has gasoline. additionally the advice of gasoline drops is stable (i does not attempt that dill recipe with out checking it out from yet another stable source). additionally the bicycling of her legs can help getting out the gasoline. i do no longer comprehend while you're breast or bottle feeding, yet the two one has themes. Breast feed infants can each and every so often get gassy from issues that the mummy eats - see the l. a. Leche League internet site for data on that. Bottle fed infants might have themes with the formulation or the bottles. some bottles permit in too plenty air. the real cue to gasoline is that if she is pulling her little legs as much as her tummy. Recap: cut back down the stimulation, examine for gasoline, examine her nutrition source. attempt the burrito wrap, attempt donning the toddler, a swing is a great ingredient...i'm hoping you get some alleviation. keep in mind she is in basic terms a toddler. in case you get too under pressure, positioned her down for a minute and circulate decompress. Shaking her will harm her. If she does not supply up with those suggestions. stumble on a pediatirican who will take your undertaking heavily and assist you stumble on an answer.

Answer 10

Three weeks ago your baby was warm and secure in the womb. It was dark and quiet, and the sound of your heartbeat comforted her.
Now she's out in the wide world, she's been through a horrendous experience (birth), and she's had to take in all sort of new sensations. Wearing clothes, noise, lights, nappies, being hungry, colic etc And there's no heartbeat to comfort her.
I'd pick her up, and cuddle her.