2007-03-16 22:10:03 · 30 answers · asked by misscantbetold 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
straight up LEAVE.! BEING IN LOVE IS NO REASON FOR MAKING A BAD CHOICE FOR YOUR SURVIVAL. NOTICED YOU USED PRESENT AND PAST TENSE VERB. IT'S A CYCLE. 1) THE TENSION, IRRETABILITY, UNRATIONAL,ETC.. 2)NAME CALLING, WATCHIN YOUR EVERY MOVE, FAULT FINDING, BREAKING PREVIOUS PROMISES OF NOT DOING IT AGAIN, ETC...3) CONTROLLING, MANIPULATIVE, STALKING, WATCHING WHO SPEAKS TO YOU NO M ATTER HOW INNOCENT OR NON THREATENING, ETC.. 4) SMACK, PUNCH, KICK, OR PIN YOU DOWN TO BEAT YOU, BLOCK THE DOOR SO YOU CAN'T LEAVE, CAUSE HE KNOWS HE STRONGER THAN YOU AND YOU CAN'T MAKE HIM MOVE. THAT'S WHY MOST WOMEN SNEAK AWAY WHILE THEY'RE AT WORK OR RUN AN ERRAND. OR HE TAKES THE PHONE SO YOU CAN'T CALL FOR HELP, ETC.. THEN REALITY SETS IN FOR HIM AND WHAT HE HAS DONE; BUT HE NOT SORRY- MERELY DON'T WANT HIS ABUSE DISCOVERED BY FRIENDS OR FAMILY- SO HE PRETENDS TO BE WORKIN REAL HARD TO PLEASE YOU AND GET ALONG; BUT YOU STILL CAN CUT THE TENSION WITH A KNIFE! THIS IS ONLY TO CAMOFLAUGE WHILE YOUR BRUISES HEAL! NOTICE HOW QUICK HIS ERRANDS ARE? HE MONITERS ALL CALLS IN+OUT. 5) MAKE-UP TIME, HE WANT SEX,TELLS YOU IN SOME FORM, IT'S YOUR FAULT HE KICKED YOUR ASS. HE PLAYING WITH YOUR MIND AND GOT YOUR SELF ESTEEM WAY DOWN, TIL YOU BELIEVE NO ONE BUT HIM WANT YOU. PROBABLY SAY YOUR UGLY, FAT, A LESBIAN , OR A SCANK. PROBABLY TELLIN YOU WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR OWN $$, CONTROLLING,ISSUEING IT($) OUT TO YOU! AGAIN GET OUT HOWEVER WHENEVER, CLOTHES ON YOUR BACK IF NEED BE. HE ALWAYS WANT YOU STAY IN TIL YOUR BRUISES GO AWAY, DON'T HE? WHY? IF HE STOPS SHORT OF BREAKING BONES ON YOU IS CAUSE THOSE TRIPS TO ER GET OLD QUICK AND THE DR. WILL SUSPECT. DO HE ALWAYS DO ALL THE TALKING-SOME ONE ASKS YOU A DIRECT QUESTION AND YOU'D THINK YOUR NAME IS HIS.HMMM. THINK SWEETY, IF THERE'S SO MUCH WRONG WITH YOU, WHY DO HE STAY OR LET YOU STAY. HE'LL WANT A DARN BREAK AND TRY A WOMAN THAT'S SMARTER,PREETIER,SEXIER, SLIMMER,ETC... RITE! THE TOTAL OPPOSITE OF WHATEVER NEGATIVE HE SAY ABOUT YOU! YET, HE KEEPS YOU, BECAUSE KE KNOW A SENSIBLE WOMAN WOULDN'T TAKE THAT CRAP! SHE KNOW HOW TO LIVE AND TREAT PEOPLE AND EXPECT THE SAME RESPECT IN RETURN! NOTHING LESS! SO YOU SEE, HE'S JUST FLIPPING THE SCRIPT, YOU'RE NOT PERFECT; BUT YOU DON'T SPEND YOUR DAY PLOTTING ON HOW TO GET AROUND TO KICKING HIS ASS. FANTASIZE THOUGH. THAT'S WRONG AND ONLY COME FROM FEELINGS OF REVENGE(PAYBACK), CAUSE YOU'RE BEING MISTREATED. AHHH... WHAT YOU'D BE LIKE WITH A MAN THAT CARE ABOUT YOU, WHERE YOU CAN EXCEL, AND HE AIN'T TRIPPING, ACTING LIKE HE SO JEALOUS. BET ANY $, HE THREATEN TO TAKE YOUR BABY, CALL YOU UNFIT TO, ETC..LEAVE- DON'T EVER LOOK BACK- THERE'S PLENTY OF HELP FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OUT THERE. IT'S HAVING POWER/CONTROL OVER YOU THAT STROKES HIS EGO, WHILE YOURS GO FURTHER IN THE TOILLET. IT'S HARD BEING IN UNFAMILIAR SURROUNDINGS; BUT THE ABUSE CAN ONLY STOP WHEN YOU REMOVE YOURSELF+ANY KIDS. SOMETIMES YOU GOTTA GO WITHOUT THEM (KIDS)AND GET THEM LATER IN COURT. ONCE YOU GET A CHANCE TO GET OUT THAT HOUSE WITH THE BRUISES VISIBLE, YOU GOT HIM, REPORT HIM, FILE CHARGES, DON'T LISTEN TO HIS THREATS, DON'T MAKE EYE CONTACT WITH HIM, GET A RESTAINNING ORDER, FIGHT FOR YOU+KIDS. YOUR STRONG, YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU'VE TAKEN HIS CRAP HOW LONG NOW- HE THINK YOUR SCARED CAUSE OF HOW LONG YOU'VE BEEN TAKIN IT AND HE TRYING TO BREAK YOU DOWN CAUSE HE KNOW YOUR STRONGER THAN HIM(EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY) HAVE YOU NOTICED THE WAYS YOU INVENT TO STAY ON HIS GOOD SIDE, DO AS HE ASKS, BE ON TIME,ETC.. HE STILL COME UP WITH A REASON TO KICK YOUR ASS. WHY? YOU KEEP FIGURING AROUND FOR HIM NOT TO! THAT TAKE THINKING ABILITY, CREATIVITY,AND COURAGE! AND THE ONLY WAY FOR HIM TO DESTROY THOSE ABILITIES/QUALITIES IS TO KICK YOR ASS. HE CAN'T OUTTHINK YOU! HE'S AMAZED HOW SMART YOU ARE AND HE TRYING TO LITERALY BEAT IT OUT SWEETY. PUT THE MOVE ON CUZ, HIT HIM UP, MAKE HIM CATCH A CASE IN YOUR FAVOR! SAVE YOUR LIFE, MAKE A WISER CHOICE TO LEAVE, BEFORE OOPS, I DIDN'T MEAN FOR HER TO HIT HER HEAD ON THE END OF THE TABLE FROM BODYSLAMMING YOU( KICKING YOUR ASS)! MAN I DIDN'T MEAN TO SAY ALL THIS TRUTH. ALL OF THIS MAY NOT HAVE HAPPENED(YET); BUT I KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT HERE. I USED TO BE WHERE YOU ARE NOW. YOU'LL HAVE ALOT OF REPROGRAMMING TO DO- SO YOU'LL STAY AWAY FROM THE TYPES, EVEN THE SNEAKY ONES, AND BE ABLE TO LET YOUR PERSONALITY COME THROUGH, THAT HE HAS BEEN BEATING OUT OF YOU FOR HOW LONG? REMEMBER, HE HITS,YOU LEAVE THE FIRST TIME. NEVER GIVE THEM A CHANCE TO DO IT AGAIN! THEY WILL, SOONER OR LATER- DON'T BE FOOLED BY THE CHURCH GOING MAN EITHER, LIKE I DID. HE WAS TWO-FACED AND A HYPOCRIPTE. YOU'RE NOT HIS CHILD TO DISCIPLINE, YOU'VE BEEN RAISED ALREADY. THAT'S NOT LOVE . YOU WERE MADE TO BE A PARTNER, NOT LESSOR, (JUST WEAKER IN PHYSICAL STRENGTH), CHERISHED, AND LOVED. READ THE BIBLE ABOUT THIS. ASK A PASTOR TO HELP YOU IN THIS MATTER. B4 YOU DO THOUGH, ASK YOURSELF- HAVE HE DONE THIS FOR, ME? YET HE SAYS HE LOVE ME- DAHH, DO HE BEAT HIMSELF, OR CALL HIMSELF DEGRADING NAMES, FLAUNT AFFAIRS IN FRONT OF AND YOU BET NOT EVEN HAVE AN EXPRESSION ON YOUR FACE OR HE'LL KICK YOUR ASS, ETC...NO! HIS SEX AIN'T THE WORLD'S GREATEST,STOP BELEIVING THE LIES--BOUNCE, GET TO STEPPING, ROLL OUT- GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-17 00:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by kelsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart , get out. RUN - don't worry about packing, there are people who will help you. Report him to the police and get away and STAY away. Especially if you think you love him. It's not only you now - there's another life involved and that life is in your hands! If you think you love him, than you need to be even further away or you will let yourself go right back into that terrible situation. Don't even be anywhere he can see you or you can see him. I know someone who had a similar situation just recently and she went back a second time. Her 18 month old baby is now in critical condition in a hospital with probable brain damage just because she couldn't stay away from someone she knew was a danger to her and her children.
2007-03-17 06:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every day you spend in a bad relationship is a day of YOUR life. Apart from the fact that your partner may harm your baby. If you got diagnosed with cancer tomorrow, would you ask yourself, "should I get treatment or just live with it?" I am not saying that this guy is gunna kill you but I am trying to say that you shouldn't have to spend your life in misery, so what if you love him and he says sorry and you have a baby together. There are alot of normal people out there who will love you without hitting you and who will make you happy all the time. Why settle for the bad apple! In years to come you will look back and have regrets. xx
2007-03-17 05:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by Banny Grasher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As quickly as possible, for your sake and the baby. Love does not choke and hit. Go to a safe place as quickly as possible. Look up the battered women agency in your town. Get the child out of that environment.
2007-03-17 05:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you REALLY need to ask this question? Don't you already know the answer?! If your best friend was to say: "My boyfriend hit me and choked me today until I passed out. I love him. Should I leave him? We have a baby together?" What would you say to her? What would you tell your sister? your mother? More than likely, you would tell them to get the hell out!!! Wouldn't you?! Please get out of this relationship. Life is to short and to precious to allow someone to do that to you. No one deserves to be hit and choked or anything like that, EVER!!! He's a jerk that really needs to work out his life before he tries to take on a family. Take your child and get out of this relationship. If you had a daughter, what would you want her to do in your situation?! I hope you decide to get out of this. Please don't listen to him if he says he's so sorry and he'll never do it again... yada yada yada. We hear about guys saying things like that after a good beating so they don't lose their girls but then end up killing them!
2007-03-17 11:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what!!! he do that? thats against the law,,, anyway introduce him to god and read this verse:::
1 Corinthians 13
Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
2007-03-17 05:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Edrew c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
**** man I've been through that!!!! It's scary and it's no way to treated..what i did was leave AND i WAS NEVER IN THAT MAN'S LIFE AGAIN..AND YOU KNOW WHAT HIS LIFE WENT DOWN THE SHITTER....i didn't want the capital locks on my words but it's true... When my b/f put me in a choke hold I was crying and telling him to stop, he slightly let his arm go but not enough for me to run away....I feel 4 you, Do not love a guy that has no trust in you it won't work believe me.
2007-03-17 05:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by corrine c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for one if he chokes and hits you , what in the name of peter pan makes you think he wont choke your baby? you dont love him......you just think you love him. you feel as if you cant get away from the abuser. The abuser is your boyfriend. The abuser has you wrapped around his lil finger waiting for his every command.
Honey, you need to get help and get out before something serious real serious happens.
2007-03-17 05:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by mcpark2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hit the road running and don't look back.
Get you and your child out of there,You have a duty to protect that child and yourself
No man has the right to hit you! it won't get better so for your safety leave him now.
I wish you and your baby well.
2007-03-17 05:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by tuppenybitz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious???
You need to respect yourself & get away from that creep!
how can you love someone who hits you with violence & makes you black out
report him to the police NOW!!!
you deserve to be treated like a decent human being!!!
what about your baby
what a rotten life it would have
don't wait another minute
he may kill you
ring the police & ask to go to a safe house!!!
2007-03-17 05:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may still love him but you must leave him. He could kill you next time or even harm the baby. For yours and the baby's sake get out of this relationship now
2007-03-17 05:14:38 · answer #11 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋