this mutha f****ka is about to make me kill him ,he has to many mood swings i think the basterd has bipolar or something ,is it me or have any of you ever been around a person that throw off your mood i mean this a**hole can walk in the room and make a flower die and his mother is the same way i guess the apple dont fall far from the tree. i`ve been with this fu** for 5 yrs i tried seperating from him to see if he would get his mind right ,but it seems that things have gotten worse im typing with rage right now because i feel like taking a knife to his throat and take him out of his misery "as we speak "and im not a violent person either"but he is really getting on my last nerve i dont like to argue or fight . i guess writing this is making me feel better but i just hate walking on eggshells and trying to please this fool that act so undecided i actually begged this fool to divorce me if he is not happy " sighs " i think imma leave this fool again if he dont get help
2007-03-16 21:36:25 · 18 answers · asked by miss toya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good luck! Hope you make all the right decisions
2007-03-16 21:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jerry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax , destress.
Take a break from this relation
At least separate from him for a while. If you've already done that, better split. Move away or there will be nothing left of you to save. Its better to be alone & sane rather than be crazy/ die coz of such a relation.
you're breaking down completely. No relation is worth that. you deserve to be calm & free of this tension.
But what is the actual problem. Have you'll considered counselling regarding his situation. Is it a mental disorder or lack of communication.
Have you got psychiatric evaluation for him & your relation.
Importantly, find ways to relax yourself. Do something you enjoy doing, just for yourself.
Try talking to someone you trust.
Try to get this anger, the feeling of helplessnesss out of your system. Don't bottle it up inside you.
Good luck.
2007-03-17 04:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I know exactly how you feel. Tired of walking on eggshells just to keep him from having a titty attack over something minor. Myself and my kids can set him off and we never know when. He's not violent, but has a bad temper and it ruins everything. He's a mama's boy as well, so I finally put my foot down. His mother's moving across country and I still have my husband.
You need to tell him exactly what you said here, "You're tired of it and it has to stop." Just like my husband, yours needs to learn that life don't revolve around him and people all have the same stress. Sounds like he needs counselling to manage his anger. I know you're stressed, but hopefully you were just venting your words and not take action on them. It's tough, but stay strong and set it straight with him. Let him know that you have feelings too and will not put yours aside just to please him. Check out the link below and see if that helps you understand more. It's helped me even though the violence didn't apply. Good luck!!
2007-03-17 05:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by leafmistress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG We are married to the same man...I have been locked in a room in my house for two days, i see him this rage comes over me and i have bad thoughts...I have other rooms and beds to sleep on, but they are way to close to him and i want to be away as far as possible...So i have been sleeping on a cot and my back hurts...I'm trying to figure out where i want to live before i leave, i cant take this anymore, its killing me inside...He even hurts my animals...UGH Good luck whatever you decide, my assets are outta here...Im not going to spend the rest of my life walking on eggshells....
2007-03-17 04:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people you can not change.Your best bet is to just move on.Do you want to know that you spent another year waiting for this man to get his act together?I waited 6 years and it got me no where.I wish I hadn't waited so long.The thing is you won't be abled to do it till you are mentally ready because saying it and doing it are 2 different things.Good Luck!!!
2007-03-17 05:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by doshidoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same thing with exwife....I strong suggest you get out---leave forever. There will be no end to the misery until you leave him. You'll both be better off then.
You should leave immediately. If you don't, you need to ask yourself why you didn't. Is it that you actually like the drama? If you don't like the drama, then leave.
2007-03-17 04:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar or some other mood disorder may be the cause. He should talk to a doctor, and it couldn't hurt if you both sought some kind of council.
2007-03-17 04:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by silentcrow01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a moment! He is your husband because you want him to be! If you don't then divorce him. Its simple but think about it every morning that you stay with this man gives you troubles and push you to crime. Stop it now before it's to late, divorce him.
2007-03-17 04:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by nikiforosfokas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years is a long time to be walking on eggshells. Divorce him and find your happiness elsewhere, you deserve it.
2007-03-17 04:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Chaun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he needs to be on medication, but if he is bi-polar, that is very difficult to treat. I would say that he needs to get help and get treatment and if he refuses, then your only choice is to leave him. While he is still alive.
2007-03-17 04:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by gigi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋