everytime I have sex with my partner,,Im ending up frustrated because I dont ahve my orgasm, my man have lot of stamina, but he cant keep waitning for me before he had his own orgasm...huhu...plssss help...
2007-03-16 20:59:59 · 11 answers · asked by ayashers 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Try new positions or ask him to do something different. Spend more time on foreplay. If you are using the missionary alot try a contour pillow under your butt. Maybe incorporate toys!
2007-03-16 21:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Celebrate Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not good to feel frustrated after sex. Not good for your health, for your emotional well being, not good for your relationship. You've got to make a change. I suggest that you put aside the idea of having your orgasm during intercourse. Just put it aside for now. Concentrate on manual and oral stimulation of your clitoris.
You probably know how to bring yourself to orgasm through masturbation? (If not, it's a different question. You can find a lot of tips - books, Internet - on how to give yourself pleasure. Basically, you explore your own body and do what feels good. Usually, stimulating your clitoris is what works best.)
If you know how to bring yourself to orgasm, there's nothing wrong in doing it during your love making. Show your partner how you do it, teach him the same technique you're using, so that he can stimulate you to your climax. If he is willing to satisfy you, he will be willing to learn. However, both of you might need a little time to get comfortable with your 'new activity', so relax, make sure you communicate and stay loving.
Start getting your orgasms. Take this awful pressure off you. And then the sky's the limit, do whatever feels good, experiment with oral sex, various positions, lubricants, toys.. Try the bridge technique that teaches you how to orgasm during intercourse, but don't be obsessed with the idea of getting your orgasms that way. Try to be open: if it happens, great! if not, no big deal! You and your partner will still be making love and giving each other pleasure in more than one way.
2007-03-17 06:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by praha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay if you don't ALWAYS have an orgasm. We are women and sometimes it doesn't come into "play" However,
you do need to be sure your getting enough foreplay. Also start looking at what you are actually thinking about when you having sex. Sometimes your mind can be alot of other places without even realizing it. It's okay to think about YOU getting your orgasm. You could also be feeling pressured by your partner to "get yours first" that's not necessarily necessary either. When I was married my husband did other things to bring me to orgasm if he had climaxed first. If your partner isn't interested in doing this then you need to bring him into another level of enlightenment or else you need another "considerate" partner.
2007-03-17 04:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Pinkprincess5455 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only about 30 percent of females orgasm with only sex, most need rubbing the clit during intercourse (or whenever) or oral stimulation, being on top helps alot of women and like other people said, being very turned on first is a big help & don't rush it, try any positions u can think of
2007-03-17 05:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Tee118 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure u are always relaxed. Make urself comfortable like have a nice bath together before it all, then a longer time for foreplay. Finally make sure u are really high by the time u let him in. Good luck.
2007-03-17 04:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by wendy t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should give you an orgasm even before any penetration with his tongue and fingers, then you can have intercouse and you may climax again but if you don't at least you had an orgasm earlier.
2007-03-17 06:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by nightdreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's gotta start trying different techniques. All women are different and like different things. Start exploring different positions.
2007-03-17 04:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya hez not satisfying u.......or u r not involved completely.
u either try having sex wit someone else or involve ur self.
as a last resort u can even mastrubate.
2007-03-17 05:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by pancho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u stimulating your clitoris , maybe you need more foreplay to get you more heated up for an earlier climax , good luck
2007-03-17 04:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your fingers involved and wriggle that little nubbin around.
2007-03-17 05:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by milittleguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋