am i the only one with a weird relationship that i cant seem to break free from?
2007-03-16 20:57:24 · 12 answers · asked by this is not good 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to the kids and let them know that they have done nothing wrong. Call them often just to see how they are doing. Even if the kids aren't yours you can't just up and leave without them getting hurt. You can make it easier if you show them that you will still be there for them. Let them know they did nothing wrong...Give them your number and tell them to call any time they need to talk and when they call don't hurry them off. Call them for awhile if they don't call you. Sometimes you have to show them that you realy do care and your splitting up had nothing to do with them...
2007-03-16 21:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by w_breezy34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im very glad u asked I have friends and siblings that are going thru that right now, My advice to u , the kids NO MATTER what will be affected, but some kids no matter at what age are more mature and understandable than others but if the living situation is bad then it will be worse on them, sme ppl think that by staying together for the kids it will be for the best but in the long run it will just get worse, becuase all that negativity will affect the children,think about it as well on your part ur kids will one day grow up and make their lives and u spent all that time being miserable for them of course sme will appreciate but other dont so u dont know right know who will and who wont. All i can say is get out and just be there for ur kids be the best parent u can be so even though the little gap of u not bing there at all times will be made up and more then appreciate it! Wish u the best
2007-03-17 04:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Romance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I had to put a star. Next to your question. I am going through that presently. There are (3) kids involved. I don't even stay here. For his ***. Yet everyday I feel imprisoned. And I harbor this animosity towards him. Due to the fact that: He uses the kids as a weapon. I had a security job for 8 months. I first started out working 14 hour shifts. Yet it was affecting the quality time. That I was spending with the kids. So I was switched to days. For this very reason. However things changed. And I had to go back. To working at nighttime. Each time I got ready to leave. He'd hang this guilt trip. Over my head talkin about: My change of hours was affecting them. I am aware of that. I could elaborate deeply. How bad my living situation is. In the nutshell. I am looking to get a job. So that I can get the hell out of here. Because the tension is so bad. You can slice it with a knife. And it isn't about "us". The kids are the one's the most affected. Yet if I leave. Then in a sense I feel that: I will have failed them. And just that whole sense of abandonment. That they'd feel. And would eventually fester. Into hatred for me. So I grin and bear it. Until I can one day bring forth resolution.(On my part that is). We haven't sat down with them. And discussed the fact that: We are going to eventually get our own places. I think Chris is in denial big time. When it's regarding the negativity. That we are exposing the kids too. I'd prefer us not live together. So that the kids can be mentally stable. And not get fucked up. By what they see from us. Yet in the same token. I feel that children need both parents present. That's just me though. Yet you need too be happy as well.
2007-03-17 04:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by andelagdn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids will be affected either way. You're not the only one in a weird relationship that they cant break away from. What's your situation? If your unhappiness and your significant other's unhappiness is affecting your children right now while your still in this relationship then if you go your seperate ways and find a solution to share custody of the children there is the possibility that you may be happier and your children may be happier.
2007-03-17 04:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A really bad living situation is already affecting the kids. Children are resilient and they are forgiving. Do what you have to do to make the best life for your kids. A change will do you all good. If money is the problem there are many organizations that help women and children because it's that important.
2007-03-17 04:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard not to affect the kids when you are in a relationship. People do not stay like back in the old days at least until the kids are grown. So not matter what you do they will be affected. It just depends on how much.
2007-03-17 04:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be the time for a very trustworthy friend or family member to lean on. Ask them if you & the kids can stay awhile till you can save the money to move out & start over. Leave it behind & move on. Your kids will be better for it.
2007-03-17 04:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am living with my baby father and we are not married. We split every expense 50/50. I just decided to look for a place and decided that he can call first and then come over to see the baby whenever he wants.
2007-03-17 04:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what type of living situation you are in???? If it is just a matter of you and your partner not getting along that is worse for the children. What is stoping you from breaking free. If it isonly the children....... They will be happier if YOU are happier.....
2007-03-17 07:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are the only one and we are studying you as you enter it. Of the five scientist beside me we all concurr there is no study of you and you are all going to be fine. What is interesting is how long it takes to accept this. Now this year at tree dressup day get yourself a train that circles the base of the tree. Your foundation.......balanced wheel.....
2007-03-17 04:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋