I work with two of my friends who had an affair (he's is married) for a couple of months... Now his wife is pregnant, but he is still in love with my friend who also loves him. They don't talk to each other, so none of them know how the other feels... Should I tell them?
2007-03-16 20:26:29 · 20 answers · asked by Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, minding my business is not an option when it comes to Friends... They trust me and confide in me, and there's a reason for that... I can't turn my back because I care, specially for her, who is like my sister to me.
2007-03-16 20:58:24 · update #1
They're adults, right? Then they should be able to decide what to say and what not to say... Whatever their reason is (which is obvious) for them to stop speaking, is the one they thought the best, even above the fellings. You should respect that... It's up to them, not to you!
2007-03-16 20:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by myliz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is this? Encouraging her to be your friend's "third-party", "marriage wrecker"? If he loves her so much, why did he choose to marry someone else? This is so strange. They have to figure out themselves.
Since he's already chosen to married to his wife. He should leave your female friend alone & let her have a chance to find new love & have a family of her own. Rather than dating in secret with him & giving him the advantage of having 2 women in his life just so because he loves both of them. What is this? He himself have to make a choice between them. Of course, the most civil decision is to stick to his pregnant wife & break off the current gf.
I think the beat is you get ready yourself comfort her & give her a shoulder to lean and cry on should things go messy. And advise her to leave him for good. Instead of giving her false hope that both of them will be together, now that it involves his wife & unborn child.
2007-03-17 04:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stay out of this. he is married with a child on the way and needs to be a responsible adult, and be there for his wife when she gives birth. he made a mistake by having an affair in the first place. if he didn't love his wife he should have made sure she did not get pregnant.
2007-03-17 03:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by misse 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stay the hell outta that one. they already have enough of a triangle goin on with out throwing in anouther angle. if the guy really loved your friend that much, he would leave his wife, pregnant or not, to be with her. the thing thats great about an extramaratal affair is that he gets the sex from the gf without having to give her the commitment that he has already given to his WIFE.
2007-03-17 03:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't make yourself part of their situation although you already are in the middle for knowing how both sides feel about 1 another. However you can encourage your friend to tell each other how they feel directly, face to face. Let them make the choice on whether or not to take their chances by expressing this love and see how things will change if anything..I hope it all works out =)
2007-03-17 03:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by SweetLatina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. . .if hes already married no. . . why leave the baby without a daddy present? him & his wife should remember their vows even stronger now & renew them & work this out if not for themselvs but for their child because the child needs both parents as an example of how a relationship is supose to be.
2007-03-17 03:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by Faith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. let it rest. their love for each other is doomed from the start since the guy is married. if you are really a friend, help your friend to forget the guy. she can't have a life with the guy coz he is married and his wife is pregnant unless you want her(or both of you and your friend) to be a homewrecker! choose.
2007-03-17 03:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay as far away from this as I could. In fact, I'd be looking for a new job, just to get far away from that.
You'd be way better off to stay out of that.
2007-03-17 03:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should mind your own business, and evaluate your own reasons for wanting to get involved in this mess - it says something about you.
2007-03-17 03:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by whatsthefingpoint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business.
2007-03-17 03:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by ßαßε 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋