Being a man, I know that men can be very persuasive. I told my wife I do not want any man to come over if I am not at home. I am not a jealous man, but I know the scoop on men.
Oh! by the way I trust my wife totally.
2007-03-16 20:07:10 · 15 answers · asked by THE RIGHT CHOICE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is everyone answering this question with you being a control freak?! WTF!? I would never allow my husband to have another woman over when I'm not home! I certainly hope that he feels the same way about men! No, you are right, you are not weak or anything else these people are saying. You are simply being smart, and setting some boundaries. Nothing wrong with boundaries, what the hell does that have to do with being a control freak? You're right, just keep doing what you're doing. Way to be a man and put your foot down!
2007-03-17 07:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No offense but this does not make much since you are either a possessive, you don't trust your wife or your playing mental games which could be viewed as emotional abuse. If you trust your wife it does not matter what anyone does male or female, she will be true to you, but the more you control her the more likely she is going to believe that you don't trust her and more likely to step out on you because, if you think it why shouldn't she do it?
Trust her, i am not saying encourage random men in the house but she is a grown woman and your life PARTNER and you should treat her as such. You have no right to determine who she can or can not socialize, or work with, when or where.
Plus, if you live this way you will set yourself up for a hard life and a miserable wife, plus every time a utility guy comes by the house are you going to call in sick or be a paranoid wreak.
Trust in yourself and your choice in her, trust her and be confident because there is nothing sexier than a confident man. I hope this helps.
2007-03-16 20:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by perfection1908 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a woman and if my husband said that to me I would tell him to take a hike. When he met me he knew that I had alot of male friends and I wasn't and am not prepared to give up our friendships. Not all men are like that. I have quiet a few male friends who pop in and say Hi - even when my husband isn't at home and he doesn't have a problem with that simply because of the trust between us. If you really did trust your wife and her ability to make the right decision you wouldn't have this problem. The other side is that is now you have this "ban" on men what happens if something needs to be repaired and it's only your wife at home - does the repairman come or not?????
2007-03-16 20:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by CLEVER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would a man even need to come over when u are not home? your wife should know better its just being respectful. so no a man shouldn't come over when u are not home no matter how much u trust her.
2007-03-16 20:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good that you trust your wife totally. Sounds like alot of men like to come over your house when you're not home. Your wife must be hot or something.
Well, tell her nicely & lovingly "Dear, I love you. There's something bothering me"
Wife lovingly replied, "Yes, dear."
Husband: "Well, I've been thinking about something. And I wish to share my feelings with you"
Wife "Er-huh..."
Husband: "I'm not comfortable having any man to come over our house when I'm not at home. I will feel very uneasy. I hope you understand. Not that I do not trust you. I trust you totally, dear. *serious look* Just that, I do not trust the men. I cherish you, dear. And I want to protect you"
Your wife may smile / laugh it off / be upset / whatever, let her respond & express her emotions. With her feelings let out, talk nicely with her & discuss on what is agreeable to the both of you.
If she loves you & understands you, she'll understand your point of view. But you must also understand her point of view.
And both of you compromise and come in between. So that both of you won't feel being disadvantaged. Both of you sacrifice a little (give in a little) for the better of both of you.
If it's your wife's father or uncle or brother, it should be an exception.
2007-03-16 20:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Dude, you bring up a really good question. Probably not. I'm a hard asss and I allowed that to happen once or twice. I'm thinking of laying down the law and just abolishing it in my home but I guess, it just hasn't bothered me enough yet.
My gut says, I need to make it a man law.
2007-03-16 20:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you trust her completely then you shouldn't have a problem with a man coming o the house while you're not there...but why would she have a man there except to repair something in the house or for work purpose...but she shouldn't ask a male-friend over when you're not there...that would be inapropriate and fishy
2007-03-16 20:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are not a jealous man, just a control freak.
If you trusted your wife, you wouldn't worry about it.
So, if you she has given you no reason not to trust her so far, the problem is with you. Get some professional help.
2007-03-16 20:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey life is two way street, I believe I would not want a woman to come over when I am not home neither likewise. To me it is called respect for your spouse.
2007-03-16 21:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what guy is coming over. If it is her brother or dad then yeah they should come over. But why would a guy need to come over when you where not there?
2007-03-16 20:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by ello please answer my questions. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋