Is it right for such guy who never been in touch with her for 12 years to send emails saying she was a dynamic lady who he could never forget but has special place in his heart etc.?He knew she love married me and chose me over him. She contacted her knowing well that our marriage is in doldrums for a couple of years.My wife knew this guy was in love with her but never gave a damn. That guy had neither the guts to express his feelings then but did recently. They met in a resort once and she wrote a passionate love letter to him after that. She chose me then over him and I am broke now while that guy seems to have made it. She even says she hoped to get what was beyond her. Is the guy innocent? Will a mother of two kids fall in love with such a guy without any encouragement from him? What is him motive behind this as he is happily married and loves his wife?
2007-03-16 19:59:57 · 11 answers · asked by havah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, it is definitely not OK. If the other guy is happily married, he should stick to his wife and family and never stray, even if the other woman happens to be his ex girl friend. And on the question of right and wrong, it isn't OK for your wife either to try to invite his attentions, as he is happily married. I think your wife values materialistic success and prosperity over human relationships. If you are not doing well, it is her duty to stay by your side faithfully and help you tide over your crisis to the best of her ability. But she is trying out a different relationship and not trying to mend her rift with you. Hence she isn't innocent either. A lot of men are extremely vulnerable to women's charms. It is a reality. And if a damsel in distress cries out for help, he finds it difficult not to respond. It is quite possible, that till now he just wants to be only a friend in need to your wife. But should it continue much longer, things could turn out badly, leading to disastrous consequences for himself and his happy family.
2007-03-17 04:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not too happy or he would not have written her. if your wife is depressed it would be easy for her to be tempted by memories of what could have been. i would contact him and find out what is intentions are. tell him your wife is having a crisis and his letter has caused additional distress. tell him he needs to firmly tell her that he does not intend to leave his wife for her so she can stop fantasizing about it. get some couples councelling.
i bet his wife would hit the roof if she knew he wrote such a letter. folks don't ever put anything on paper or email you wouldn't want others to read.
2007-03-17 03:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by misse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dude, that's not cool. I'm not doubting you are happily married but there is a disconnect in your marriage, it may be just for the moment but it is there. You need to deal with what you are not getting form your marriage.
On the other hand, if that's what you must do to help deal with the disconnect, then go ahead, trust me there's a lot worse going on that writing a email.
2007-03-17 03:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't put yourself down. You seem to be a devoted, loving, compassionate, wonderful husband; be proud of yourself. I believe your wife and this other guy may be infactuated by the ideal of "what if they got married" this is only a illusion and not reality. The reality is you and her are married and the other guy is happily married as you say.
The other guy should not try to initiate contact with your wife for it's not appropiate or respecting her marriage with you. I would confront your wife and let her know that; you understand her feelings, however you're not in agreement to her continuing any diaogue with this guy because if he truly wanted to be married to her nothing would have prevented him for making it happen. Now that both of them are marry he wants to profess his love "bull***". No one really knows his motive but if he was innocent or honest he would have met with both of you with his wife as friends not trying to rekindle feelings of the past. Continue to love and shower you wife with affection and desiring her and this will diverage her from wanting to remain in contact with the guy of her past and she'll realize what a wonderful husband she has. Success in not in the amount of money you make, but the blessing of giving and receiving love unconditionally; true love for all the right reasons. God Bless.
2007-03-17 15:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this, a pyschic explained it to me - I use to be in love with this guy and I have telepathy. The pyschic told me that I loved him more than he loved me. We were soul mates and our souls miss each other.
It could be an infatuation that she never got over, and people get over them when they back to deal with them.
Who really knows what is going on, most men will play if they had the chance. Some men have a conscience and will think about their wife, they do things in an impulse.
2007-03-17 04:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your wife has issues. didn't you know that money was important to her, for example how much did you wine and dine her before marriage? oh and did they ever slept together once if not some people like going after what they cant have,called cat and mouse game.what you need to do is tell her to crap or get off the pot.
2007-03-17 03:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by wisper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i might not be the right person to answer this question but one thing in my mind... u wouldnt be here asking this ques unless that u felt insecure of curious. if u know that ur wife loved and is happy married to u, then y worry?
2007-03-18 01:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by Gayathri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may mean well, but, no it's not ok. Seriously, she may be vulnerable right now and even cyber relationships outside of marriage are not ok.
2007-03-17 03:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by minimickimichelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,,,,,whats he lookin for trouble??
2007-03-17 03:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by igottadrive2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Period.
2007-03-17 03:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jacques 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋