she was my BFF cuz we both cut ourselves so we had something in common and could confide in each other but suddenly she got rily weird and possessive-calling 7 times a day, iming, emailing, visiting, etc. and it got kinda creepy....we had space for a while and it felt good, i was getting better but now she wants to be friends again and im scared....iv told her how i feel about it and i need more space but she cant hear me....how i do i tell her simply and quickly but not too mean?
2007-03-16 19:57:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
So you started out being friends because you both cut yourself and now you are surprised to find out that she is super needy?
I just stop answering the phone....when I make a mistake and invite a troublemaker into my life.
2007-03-16 20:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always just tell her, "I really valued our friendship; but right now I need to figure some things out by myself. I really appreciate everything you've done, but now I need to work on this." Keep the conversation away from her creeping you out. Try to make her feel as far from responsible for your need for space as possible, if you can. Good luck. :)
2007-03-16 20:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you're not trying to be mean, but you need time to sort some things out. Things have gotten a little odd and if she's really a true friend, you only ask that she respects your wishes. If it gets too out of hand, please, don't hesitate to tell someone. Hope this helps.
2007-03-16 20:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sh3zTyp3BaDd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have problems like that too. I just sabotaged the friendship so that she didnt want to stalk me anymore. Like I would be a total dick to her. Thats how I deal with my problems. Im like a guy.
2007-03-16 20:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by Breez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't understand nice. You already told her politely...now let her know that she is beginning to piss you off and so you won't do anything you'll regret tell her she needs to back off before you snap. If that don't work ......beat that azz.
2007-03-16 20:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you just said. add that you feel really uncomfortable when she won't give you space when you tell her you need it,and if she cannot respect your feelings then you cannot continue being her friend.
2007-03-16 20:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by heather l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone....it may seem simple, and then your dead and she's on the cover of people!!!
Its not normal or ok to stalk...cal your local PD.
2007-03-16 20:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by ste.phunny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first you need therapy, and as a formal friend take her to or read the bible were it says don't mutilate you temple
2007-03-16 20:04:01 · answer #8 · answered by wisper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Feed her to pigs, the eat or trace evidence
2007-03-16 20:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by FIUIRIP 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
why are u so bummmed out mang? Lighten up be a good friend now play nice....share your toys.....:)
2007-03-16 20:02:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋