Help about being insecure and depressed!?

Question

I really had a traumatized past. All of the people stay away from me and I've been depressed ever since prep. At that time there was no one to lean on to. Not my friends nor family.No one wanted to befriend me. I just kept everything to myself and cried almost everyday. People say i was yucky esp. with me being the ugliest person you'll see. People treated me as if I wasn't human and hurt my feelings a lot. (even teachers hurt me). Because of this, my grades started to fall.
Now, everything started to be alright. I wasn't that ugly duckling anymore and my grades started to go up ( i even had a merit ;)) But I'm still insecure and depressed because I'am fat, no talents and brains while my sisters keep on achieving.
Because of insecurity, I'am a shy and quiet person which affects me so much because there are a lot of things I can't do because of my shyness. I'am scared on what might people think of me again. Can anybody help on how I can improve myself on being shy?

Answer 1

This is much too much to help with on Yahoo! Answers. See a counselor, they'll be able to help with all of the above. Plus calling up a Psychologist will help with your shyness, right?
Eh, maybe not. But please get professional help with this! Your future is bright.

Answer 2

I have done what you are doing. I spent so much time feeling sorry for myself and feeling depressed that I never did anything about it.

I am actively changing my life now instead of spending it feeling bad. I exercise thirty minutes a day three times a week and the weight is slowly but surely coming off.

I have stopped comparing myself to others and have had time to discover some good things about myself that I have developed into talents and interests.

However, if none of this helps and you really feel down and depressed all of the time, see a counselor or doctor. They will be able to help you more than we can.

Really, though, only you can help you. You must take the first step in all that you do.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Here are some suggestion

1.)Join a sport, or a team at your school....lacrosse, soccer, basketball, whatever. Being involved in sports will not only help you to lose the weight, but wil help you develop communication skills with other people (via teamwork)
2.) Get involved in your local church. This is another great way to meet people and hone your communication skills...while you are there, it is important to volunteer in some capacity. In so doing, you will take the focus off of yourself and your issues and begin to see the bigger picture in life....that picture being, that it is NOT all about you. As you start having an avenue to help OTHER people with their issues, your problems will begin to seem smaller and eventually dwindle away.

Well, I could go on, but if you do those two things, that will help you tremendously...good luck, and remember the only person that can start the change process in your life is YOU.

Answer 4

Honey hear there isn't something incorrect with those characteristics. severe iq had to superb the superb damaging character this is totally just about me precisely. even regardless of the indisputable fact that seeing a therapist is superb interior the recommend time i think of you will desire to attempt to make some friends or locate an interest you want to do (ex: artwork song activities). this could build your self belief and help you come across different who like issues you do on your college. this will additionally help you have much less of those embarrassing moments. i'm hoping you come across help. And hear sweetie it gets greater helpful:) I promise

Answer 5

That is very important - to trust yourself only and to be comfortable with your image. Don't look at the other people.You are good enough. Shyness can be attractive too. Forget about the past. Wait for better days. They will come for you.

Answer 6

Get some pen pals and just talk to people, laughter is the best medicine, especially if you can learn to laugh with yourself as well as at yourself.