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A White Woman's Opinion of Black Women

White women's opinion of black women & a brother's response
Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep! Thumbs up to this black man.
Enjoy.
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship.
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...
I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE

Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could> never> date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children.
Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty

Why is it a a bunch of bull?
I'm not surprised you find it boring.

Ali I do not understand what ur saying.
Emotionally charged, so you don't see any truth at all in what they both said? He DID go down history lane.

Answer 1

Lol, girl I must've read and heard about this thing at least a year ago. I'm glad the black man responded and defended us but she signed it off with "white girl" so obviously she is with a "black boy", not a man

Answer 2

Y + Y = 2Y why you ask? let's imagine Y is a million cupcake: so istead of y + y you have: a million cupcake + a million cupcake = 2 cupakes Y x Y = Y^2 ( y squared) Why you ask? let's imagine Y is two so as a replace of having Y x Y yo have: 2 x 2 = 4 4 is comparable to 2^2 (2 squared) that's using fact 2 can pass in it 2 situations only like 25 = 5^2 (5 squared) that's using fact 5 can pass in it 5 situations (5x5) that can assist you know it extra shall we take: Y x Y x Y = Y^3 (Y cubed) only like 2^3 (2 cubed) is 8 (2x2x2) or an person-friendly way whilst multipling any letter: count huge type the quantity of the letters tbat delivers the index huge type (the small huge type it somewhat is above the letter) was hoping I helped you know it!

Answer 3

I know that my words can never do that justice. Black Royalty reaffirmed why I love my black men. I don't think that his response could be put more eloquently than that.

I have no problem with interracial relationships. I am a product of an interracial marriage. I do think that there are some white women who feel the same as Disgusted White Girl and it is sad and ignorant. If they really loved their black husband/boyfriend then they would have the class to respect black women as a whole instead of making generalizations because of a few that disapprove. That black man that she fell in love with wouldn't be here if not for a BLACK WOMAN.

Answer 4

I think... no, scratch that. That is, without question, doubt, or, in a humble attempt to match the eloquence of the "True Gentleman" who responded to (let's just say) "that woman's" "episode", ....that is unequivocally, the most admirable testament to a "peoples'" virtue, strength, tenacity, humanity and absolute dignity I have ever had the pleasure of reading. I could almost "hear" the words gliding effortlessly in their meaning and truth, from a mind that, if it is not already doing so, should be teaching the principles of life.
It is equally unfortunate that, as a "white" man, I have felt the shame and guilt of the many terrible ways "we" have treated our fellow "man". As members of the human race, we must learn to recognize the strength, dignity and honor of our "different colored" brothers and sisters. This world we live in is only getting smaller. We cannot continue to grow as a society, (no, scratch that too) We have not yet demonstrated, even the smallest amount of the courage it would take to BEGIN to grow as a society. The society of our present and future must be one in which we can nurture a willingness to live together; protecting and defending the values and cultures of the people we share this planet with. There is nothing we can do to change the past. We cannot erase the past. We cannot undo the past. However, it is our duty and moral obligation to LEARN from the Past.
The woman who wrote those indignant words has chosen her path in life, and with that choice, because of her attitudes and ignorance, will... of this I am sure, take from her life what she has put into it; emptiness, "soul"lessness, bitterness, resentment and the final knowledge, that she has contributed nothing to the life with which she could have done so much.
As I became majestically uplifted by "Black Royalty's" wisdom, I envisioned Sir Sidney Portier, the epitome of my model for what is noble and true. I applaud his "Dr. King" like restraint and bow to the dignity of self that could only come from the knowledge of his heritage. He is a tribute to "MAN".
That, is... and will always be what I "think" (and remember) about what I read here today. Thank you, for asking.
.....and, Sir, wherever you are, thank you for responding and giving us all a lesson in Humanity.

Answer 5

Just a fact, white people don't come from egypt!

It depends on the person, i knew a black girl from school who allways acted like she was better than everyone, but i knew others who were some of the nicest people i ever met. The same goes for every race, god!

Answer 6

Interesting how different opinions on the same matter can turn out to be so funny. My respect to the second writer.

Answer 7

Read it before. Interestingly enough, I've only dated 1 white girl and numerous blacks and hispanics.

Answer 8

sorry, Ur question was like story and i think u do not that what are u looking for,this is what i understand if i am wrong it could be my problem

Answer 9

The letter and the response were both too emotionally charged and neither of them are justifiable.

Women are women and we all have our bad apples and our queens.

Answer 10

What a bunch of bull.