My boyfriend has a a couple of female friends most of which he has grown up with, one in particular is his "play sister" and he asked if I was going to let her come to the hospital and see the baby. I hadn't said anything to him yet but I haven't even met her and at first didn't even feel comfortable about the relationship he has with her b/c he said they had tried to be more than just friends at one point and time but didn't want to ruin the friendship that they have. She has a kid already and one on the way but my question is would you feel comfortable with that and why or why not? What would you do? My thing is I haven't met her or even talked to her but yet she's supposed to be his "sister". I am going to induce on Tuesday and I just don't really know how I feel about that yet.
2007-03-16 19:23:53 · 20 answers · asked by Lil.Mans.Ma07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just for the record I never said he couldn't just wanted to know what others thought and no I'm not having friends up there just fam. and no she's not with the father of either of her children nor is she in a relationship. I just haven't addressed the question yet, no big deal.
2007-03-16 19:40:04 · update #1
no prob..it's okay,at least now they'll know that their friend has a family.And they'll somehow be conscious to you and to the guy!
2007-03-23 21:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, yes, that would annoy me.. especially for the two reasons that you've stated: you haven't even met her yet ... What a time to meet her.. right after giving birth!? Isn't that stressful/time full of changes & begining to adjust enough??! The other thing is their past, and him trying to 'take it to another level'. That just doesn't feel good.
Maybe you can meet her at another time.. even before the hospital if he's really pushing to have her there..
I hope you can make peace with this situation soon, as it's nice to get on with the birth preparations (and going into labour) with a clear, peaceful mind..
Wishing you all the best, I'm sure you'll figure out the best way to work it out!!
Wishing you fabulous luck with the birth process - you'll get to see that sweet little face so soon!! :)
2007-03-16 19:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GUUUURL, Fisrt off thats yo man! Know one knows him better than you so be real with yourself.We try to play like we dont understand but we all knew what we had from the start. Most of the time if it iggs you it's wrong, but it's a matter of trust and respect. Trust is between you and him but the respect is for you so you be a woman tell him how you feel and that your not too comfortable with the situation and he has one time to show you different. In a relationship just like in the court your innocent till your proving guilty. If he loves and respects you he wont risk it. They tried once and if there still playing the game while your having his baby then let him have her.
2007-03-24 14:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask to meet her! You still have 3 days before you go in the hospital, so why not meet her. You may surprise yourself and actually like her. It sounds as though this girl is pretty important to your boyfriend. If you're going to have a baby and a relationship with him, don't you think it's about time that you met one of his closest friends?
Even beyond that whole issue, it's his baby too. It seems unfair to tell him that his friends can't come to the hospital and congratulate him just because you don't know or like them. I'm sure that he doesn't like all of your friends either (whether he admits it or not) but would you like it if he told you they couldn't come to the hospital to see you and the baby?
2007-03-16 19:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by bubbleblunder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As she has a baby on the way herself it suggests she is in a long term relationship and no threat.
I know you dont have much time but perhaps its would make you more comfortable to meet her this weekend, before you induce?
I dont think you have anything to worry about though and I think its nice that she wants to come visit you and see the baby :) Think of her like your boyfriend does, as a relation rather than ex-potential girlfriend material!
2007-03-16 19:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in the hospital, you're having the baby, you can choose who you want to visit. Just tell him that you will be tired and having just gone through the stress and excitement of having a baby you do not fell like meeting new people. I think it's ok if he wants to take her to the nursery so she can see the baby (thru the viewing window) He actually sounds like a proud dad who wants to show off his baby. Just because they once tried to be more than friends doesn't mean anything shady is going on. Maybe after you're up and around he can bring her around and formally introduce her to you.
2007-03-16 19:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by kgee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang girl, u really need to grow up! He loves you-hes with you- and hes having a kid with YOU not her!!!! Stop being so jealous. If he wanted her, hed be with her, not you. Now for her actually wanting to go and see your baby,it should tell you something. She obviously knows and accepts you as his girlfriend. You should be glad for that and not have her as a hater. Then there would be some questioning!
2007-03-16 19:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Number one she can't be like a sister, one doesn't try to have a thing with ones sister. Personally I'm with you on this even though you haven't met her something just doesn't seem right about it.
2007-03-16 19:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel comfortable with that either. This time is about you and your baby. If he cant accept your feelings and let go of his past, then he needs to go and grow up. remember you and bub are the most important thing.Best wishes
2007-03-16 19:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by Spastikus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know I'd feel jealous, but I'd also know that a reaction like that was out of line. Keep your lips closed on this one and let her see the baby.
2007-03-16 19:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by littlechrismary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's his "play sister" but you never met her...hmmm...sounds kinda strange if she's so important to him the he calls her his sis then i think you should have met her before now if they're jus "friends" i once got fooled by the jus "friends"...she's expecting too...i jus have a question are you sure it's not his...thats what i would think..but i would suggest you ask to be introduced to her before and if you're comfortable let her come but me personally i would say helllll no
2007-03-23 03:38:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋