I am 21 and still living with my parents. I have two jobs available that I can take, one two hours away, or one 14 hours away. The further one would be the better to gain more experience towards my intended career. The thing is though, I don't want to leave. I feel that if I leave, and something happens to my parents, be it illness, money problems, problems with my siblings, even death though I don't want to think about it, I wouldn't be able to be near enough to help them get through it. And if I stay, then I feel like I would be letting them down by not pursueing the one thing I enjoy doing in life. What could be worse? Being so far away that I wouldn't be able to say goodbye, or not making them proud by not following my dreams and letting them down again. I tried moving out of state before and became phsyically ill with homesickness and had to return home. Even two hours away would cause me to be very homesick, but staying here and letting them down would kill me. What should I do.
2007-03-16 19:01:36 · 7 answers · asked by drnotwhoyouthinkiam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweetheart, at some point you just have to jump in, and stick it out, you may feel like you are sinking at first but eventually you will realize that you can swim. The world is getting smaller every day and you are only a phone call away and a plane ride home. If you pass an opportunity that is as good as this one sounds you may forever regret it. Your parents support you and love you and you don't have to be in the house to be there for them, in fact they probably want you out the house because the measure of success for a parent is the child's ability to grow and succeed. If I were them I would put you out (from love of course) and make you follow your dreams. Fear is a limiting, darkening emotion, brighten and widen your tomorrows.
Best of luck
2007-03-16 19:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by perfection1908 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being homesick and there's nothing wrong with staying close to home ... provided it's what you WANT to do. Distance has no bearing on whether you'd get to "say goodbye" to your parents if something were to happen. I lived in the same house with my father when he died of a heart attack on the way home from work and I never got to say goodbye. Do you have other family members living nearby? Are your parents making you feel guilty about the possible move or are you assuming a responsibility you haven't even been given? Many years ago, I was in a similar position and I mentioned it to my mother. She said, "Don't. Do NOT live your life that way. Take advantage of whatever opportunities come your way." My advice is to have a sit-down with your folks and tell them what's on your mind.
2007-03-17 02:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey it is time for you to leave the nest and make a life for yourself. i bet your parents are afraid you will settle. life happens no matter where we are. parents can be ill or die no matter where we are. you sound very insecure. when you move you need to keep in touch with your family, email is a great thing. make friends immediately, do not just set around at your appartment gloating. get some councelling if you need to. find a church in your new town and visit the pastor. there might be some nice single girls your age that he could introduce you too. if you have a friend that would like to make a career change maybe they could move with you.
i moved to a city 14hours from home when i was 19 y/o and moved back home when i was 28. it was the best thing i could have done for myself. i was a momma's girl and it was very hard. you will have days that you want to run home. stay busy and focus on your career and new friendships.
2007-03-17 02:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them and let them know how you feel. There is nothing wrong with being homesick, are you really worried about them or of failing on your own. Problems will arise and they will be out of hands whether you are a block away or two states away. Dont put your life on hold or you will regret it. You are already trying to cross a bridge that has not been built. They raised you to make something out of yourself and to be there babysitter.
2007-03-17 02:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by another journey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents raised you with the intent of helping you become a good, decent woman who could stand on her own two feet and go out into the world and create a wonderful life for herself. They don't need you there to keep them going, they can do that themselves. It's time for you to fly.
Give your homesickness some serious thought, and I'll bet it is more anxiety about trying to go out into the world and failing than it is about missing home.
2007-03-17 02:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get homesick bad too...but i think you should try! you'll alwasy wonder what could have been. and ya no i think you will surprise yourself on how well you do! and dont worry about your parents...this is your life now! you wouldnt be responcible for anything
2007-03-17 02:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you want to do for you and get near your parents by phone or mail.... you have to be what you want to be
2007-03-17 02:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by SongMaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋