short version of long story:
theres this girl at my high school who has nowhere to live cause her parents use 2 abuse her so she makes deals with guys that shell sleep wit them if they feed her and let her sleep at there house
i made an arangement with her to do that but then i really started likeing her
i let her move in with me and my family loves her but i cant stand her anymore, shes become so clingly. how do i get her out of my house ?
2007-03-16 18:26:42 · 15 answers · asked by man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You did her a favor by welcoming her into your family, but any girl who will sleep with someone just to have a place to live says it all, doesn't it? I don't know how old she is, but by sheltering her from the cruelties of life isn't helping her, it's only enabling her to rely on her sad situation to get her thru life...help her to stand on her own two feet, if it means helping her find a job or a place of her own, do it! You've been a good friend, but if you continue to live the way you are, you'll grow to resent her instead of having the chance to remain friends....
2007-03-16 18:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by kate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs psychological help. Plain and simple. She made this deal with you and instead of being a friend and giving her a place to stay you agreed, and then you claim to like her? Don't lie to yourself and especially not to her. She's clingy because of what she has been through and she probably senses that you are trying to get rid of her. She just wants someone to love her and care about her and she doens't know how to get it.
If you want to do something good for her talk to your parents about how you can do something to help her, if you can't give her what she needs contact child services and they will find a foster family for her. If you don't give a **** what happens to her tell her to pack her bags and leave, maybe she'll find someone else who will give her what she really needs or she'll end up a homeless kid on the street and probably a prostitute.
2007-03-16 18:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a private discussion with your parents about how you feel about the situation. We'd all like to "save" people, but always remember that Self Preservation is the first law of life. In the future, try not to move any more random people into your house and on top of your family without doing research on them first.
2007-03-16 18:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sh3zTyp3BaDd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents were not right for doing this.Have you talked to her parents to get their side of the story?Maybe they are abusive ,maybe they arent.Either way she isnt there now.Sounds like she loves you.You thought you loved her until you got to know her, this is why you should NOT have sex with someone until after you marry them.Tell your parents the whole story and seeif they can find a church couple to take her in.She needs rules and guidance.Your parents may have meant well, hope they arent grandparents at this point tho.
2007-03-16 18:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is no easy way to tell someone good bye. i sugguest helping her find a place of her own. be honest with her. let her know that friendship is all you want.
if you led her into believing that you liked her and you did knowing that she was needy. then you should help her get resettled.
youll be able to live with yourself know you did the right thing.
2007-03-16 18:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by rondalaurell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i glad that you were there for her, but you know that you were
wrong to behave like that, now what happen is that what
goes around is coming back around.. all you can do is
be honest with her and let her know how you feel. but one
thing is stop sleeping with her. if nothing else talk to your
parents about this. learn from this dont play with people
emotions....
2007-03-16 18:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you knew what you where getting when you move her in.and you used her like all the rest.high school.why would your family let you sleep with her under there roof.your mother and dad never should let her move in unless she had her own room.your no better than the other guys use her now get her out shame on you!!!!!!!!!!.
2007-03-16 19:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not as complicated as you think. Tell her the truth. Let her know that she can continue to stay there, but you can't be together anymore.
2007-03-16 18:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by scarter3523 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont let her stay until she is 18 . she has nowhere else safe, Tell her you want to treat her as a foster sister, not a girlfriend and date others.
2007-03-16 18:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up...too clingy? listen to yourself, you used her, and now your stuck with her. She lives with you, often times thats the true definition of clingy, wait til you get married.
advise, think with the right head next time. deal with it, eventually one of you will move out, lol!!!
2007-03-16 18:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by coohman76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋