Ok so this girl I really like went to a movie tonight with me and a friend. A few days ago out of no where we kinda started hugging/cuddling, and there was a bit of making out. I asked her if it ment anything the next day and she said that for the moment no and she wasn't sure if it would and that she didnt want to lead me on. So today when we went I felt like she was totally leading me on... we held hands for about half the movie she had her head on my shoulder a couple times. However there were a few times where she kinda took her hand away when I reached out for it when she kinda put her hand near mine. So on the way home she asked how long I liked her, and I told her, then I thought Id clarify what happened tonight and asked if anythings changed since we last talked about how for the moment she didnt see me like that. She said not really?! But it was a more quiet and mellow and took her a while to answer. So Im totally confused. Her actions say one thing but her words say another..
2007-03-16 18:13:44 · 13 answers · asked by teh_masta_of_all 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
that girl is messed up cuz you seem like a pretty nice guy to date! good luck with dating life!
2007-03-16 18:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by ari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I appplaud both you and her for doing your best to be honest. And if she cannot make up her mind, maybe you are investing too much in this... whatever it is. So, you're friends for now... you both need to continue to be honest with each other, and clarify where you stand a lot.
Bottom line is: Games. Do you wanna play them? The whole relationship game. If you do, go right ahead. If not... talk. And try to clarigy what you want as well. Are you ok with just being friends, or do you have to have more? And tell her how you feel... then work it out from there. :)
2007-03-16 18:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you go through life you'll find that not everyone feels the same way about us as we feel about them, and that doesn't mean there is one thing wrong with you.
As a woman, I can tell you absolutely that she has no romantic interest in you, and don't let that bother you. You're young and you'll have many girls in the future who will think you're the greatest thing since aspirin, so don't let this bother you at all. The one who's meant for you will be someone who will be obvious from the start, so keep that in mind.
You're a very nice young man, so wait for the one who wants you as much as you want her.
Good luck.
2007-03-16 18:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by nova30180 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of Women and Men relationships. As you get older it get no clearer. play it by ear and good luck to you kid ur gonna need it!!! I'm 54 years old and the more I know women the less I know and understand about them. Your friend is just entering the difficult years for women. They start at about 15 or 16 and last until their late 40's.
2007-03-16 18:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by RUDOLPH M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls can be very fickle...get used to it. She's not leading you on on purpose. She wants your attention but she's also afraid of your attention.
As a woman, the best advice I can give you is to not lose sleep over her. If she wants to be with you and you are ok with that - be with her. If she calls sometime and you are busy, that's ok too. Girls, especially young ladies, can be very confusing to read. Its not you - it the female gender.
2007-03-16 18:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she was pretty clear with you. You don't have a future together, she's spending time with you until something better comes along. Unless you can accept that I'd say move on.
2007-03-16 18:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mark in Boulder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to figure out what someone is thinking/feeling when they probably don't understand it all themselves. I'm sure she's trying to figure out what she wants. If you hope for a certain result, don't push. Just chill and try to have fun with her. Good luck
2007-03-16 18:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mark G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is trying to tell you she is ok with being physical without having any kind of a formal relationship. Back in the woods, they usually called it acting like a slut.
2007-03-16 18:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by reconnermom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what she wants and i think you should move on to something better. Don't let her play with your emotions... You should really talk to her and see how she really feels and then if she says she isn't into you move on and get with someone who actually feels the sameway you do.
2007-03-16 18:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by mnm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point blank....women are confusing. You might just be better finding another girl, or leaving her behind and then she will realize what she missed out on.
2007-03-16 18:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Paramedic2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋