I've been friends with this guy for the past 4 yrs and from the beginning I have wanted to be more than friends and he knows it. He doesn't feel the same way but my feelings wont go away for him. Should I stay friends with him or is it unhealthy? We also made out when we were drunk which confused me soo much more. I'm not sure where to go or what to do.
2007-03-16 17:52:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
End it. If it is confusing you, and causing you pain, which it obviously is you need to stop seeing the boy and take care of you.
Put in it's simplest terms, would you keep stabbing your hand over and over or stop when you discovered it hurt?
Besides, perhaps if you are not so available in his life he may realize what you mean to him and his feelings could develop into more. Either way, you have taken steps to stop hurting yourself and make your life more richer and fullfilling as well as to give yourself the means to care for someone that DOES want you.
Just because you do not see him, or call him, or talk to him for a bit does not mean the friendship is over permanently, just that you are taking steps to live your life to the best of your ability.
Good luck, HTH
2007-03-16 17:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows you want to be more than friends and is still your friend even after all the drunk kissing and all, then dont push it and get interested in someone else or get a hobby or join a group or something..you may just need him as a good reliable friend to go to one day. I'm sure there are other guys that want to talk to you that you might think are nice and good looking...date around, but dont get serious and just have fun with life for now..keep things lite and dont get drunk and start being a ho and feeling sorry for yourself and all that drama... there are soooo many guys out there, just be careful cause they only want your "P"ower
2007-03-17 01:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Gary G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a guy like that is not worth all that trouble, which is why it's good to keep it just as friends and nothing more, even when drunk. if u don't think you're capable of doing that, then u should get space from him. don't speak to him for months, then when u see each other again, if he asks you if you still like him, say no. from my experience with guys in the past, once they find out u like them, they get all weird around you and keep their distance. one way of seeing if he actually does like you is by trying to make him jealous by turning your interest into some other guy
2007-03-17 01:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay friends with him, because youve known him for so long. Im sure hes a good friend, and it wouldn't be the same with out him i dont think. But if i were you i would just kkinda look for some one else, who no's maybe he'll get jelous or something.
2007-03-17 00:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh i'd say stay friends but move on. you seem to be able to connect with this guy since you've been friends for 4 years but if nothing's happened then and he knows you want it to..nothing is going to happen.
but just because you used to like him doesn't mean you two still can't be friends.
just wait for the guy who loves you the way you want him to, and keep your friend as a friend.
2007-03-17 00:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by thatonegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he still wait to be drunk to make out with you......lol...no dont stay friends..if it bothers u too much..unhealthy if u like him more than he likes u
2007-03-17 00:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not really friends now, because you're hoping to get something from him that he doesn't want to give you. If you want to be friends with him, you'd have to really accept that a friend is all he'd ever be, and you'd have to be okay with that or want it, too. Otherwise, you're just torturing yourself for no reason.
2007-03-17 00:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mark G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is unhealthy or your self-esteem!! Move on!!!
Just by you saying he knows how you feel and he doesn't feel the same way.....but he is still around?? RUN...........
2007-03-17 01:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on if you want to keep your sanity. Accept that you can't handle being around him and stop being obsessive.
2007-03-17 00:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by another journey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remain friends and leave it at that.
2007-03-17 00:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by Grampa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋