What's the right age to get married?

Question

I'm very career oriented but at times it all feels weird and you wanna have a family, house, kids, a steady life....

Just wondering how long did you wait for your marriage? Are late marriages more successful than early marriages?

Answer 1

get married on your deathbed, that the right time.

Answer 2

Getting established in your life is probably the most important criteria to go by when considering a good time to get married. Love is great and will get you thru alot of things, but it helps to be practical too. Marriage is such an adjustment and take so much work especially at first. ( after the honeymoon period) So, if you have alot of other things still sitting on your plate such as finishing your education or trying to start a business it makes ensuring the success of the marriage all the more challenging. If love is truly there, you need to be there for each other as each of you has your dreams, so enrich your relationship by supporting each other as you get those dreams off the ground and then once you have some stability, then think about getting married. If much of that other stuff is out of the way, the more time you will have to devote to those opening years of the marriage, and you will need it because, once the kids come along you won't have those kind of years back again for a long time....Good Luck!

Answer 3

Marriage has to do with finding the right person...the love of your life...if you find him then you should get married, when he proposes to you at his knees. It shouldn't be about the house or anything else...family and kids are very much fun to have but we can't have any if we aren't married in the first place = )

There isn't anything wrong with putting your career ahead. After all that desire usually doesn't last forever and once you feel satisfied, go right ahead and try your luck in the dating pool and see what you can find! But you might as well take it slow when dealing with things regarding marriage, so I guess about early 30s/ late 20s would be the right time!

Answer 4

You can approach from each end.

To have sufficient independence and career orientation, you must at least finish college and then establish a career. That puts you around 23 to 25. After 2-4 years in a job or change one job, you know if you indeed have a career.

There is social pressure on women who are past 30 and not married. While a female reaches her child bearing age around 16 (technically), the most suitable age range for bearing children is their 20s.

In the US, the average age for the man getting married is 27 and 25 for the woman.

Women who don't depend on their husbands financially are more ready to "walk" as they are more self-oriented. But they are have more resources for the family so money is less of an issue, making them less vulnerable.

Answer 5

Late marriages ARE more prone to success. Sorry youngsters but it's true. When you are in your twenties, you honestly believe you understand yourself and your life and everything else... you think you have it all figured out but you know what? You aren't done growing. Younger people deny it all they want but the truth is a real mature person knows that growth doesn't end with the teen years.

Specifically, I'd say sometime after 30. Most personal growth after 30 is gradual and more self-aware and easier to deal with. It's not a hard and fast rule, but really, studies have shown that people older than 30 are usually more mature, more stable and with a much better understanding of who they are and where they are going.

It's only the younger-than-30 set who say age isn't important. That belief shows that they are not done maturing. That's not an insult, it's just reality and it can be good, but it's better to wait to get married until you really know who you are.

Answer 6

I would suggest after the age of 24. I was 32 when I got married, but started dating my husband when I was 24. You need to make sure that you are where you want to be in life, and done all the things that you wanted to do as a single person. make sure that you are financially stable and that you have saved your own money, and keep it that way....you need something to fall back on if something were to happen between you and whom ever you marry....I am now turning 40, and my husband and I are still together...although we have not been married 10 years, we have been together for a long time....as with all marriages, we all tend to a few problems from time to time. I think it is important to date for a while b4 getting married.

Answer 7

Age has very little bearing on how successful a marriage will be. The biggest factors are the maturity levels of each person in the relationship and each one's level of committment to the other and their commitment to the marriage. I got married at 20 the first time, but we lacked both of those things. I got married the second time at 30, and we have those factors in our favor. Don't rush into it, make sure that he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. My personal favorite advice to give on this.....don't marry someone you can live with, marry the one you can't live without. Good luck to you and your future endeavors.

Answer 8

It depends on you. My mom was 18 and she was ready. I was 22 and I was ready. Besides that, you want to ask yourself if HE is ready. I think it takes time for some people to get everything out of their system. I was career oriented when I got married but when I had my first child a year later, being a mom was my main focus. My best advice is to ask yourself....am I ready? ---mentally, emotionally, do I have my life in order? Is he ready? Is ther anything I am worried about in him? If you see any red flags, it will be magnified a thousand times after you say "I do". If you can say confidently I know that we love eachother, we are both strong and mature enough to pull through the tough times and we share the same goals than you are ready.

Answer 9

You cant have both a career and marriage with kids.Unless the hubby stays at home.Whats the point of having kids when youre going to pay daycare to raise them?Are you willing to quit your career?These are things to consider.The right age is when you meet the man of your dreams who is a responsible family orientedman and you are willing to (not grudgingly) to give up a career to be a wife and mother, for that my dear young friend is a career in itself.Raisning tomorrows leaders.

Answer 10

I'd say from from my own experiences and those of others I have seen, the most successful have been those getting married in their early to mid thirty's. That may seem late to you, but it gives you time to get the dating bug completely out of your system and also allows you to gain some insight on how to safeguard yourself against selecting the wrong partner. Most men start maturing later too so the 30 somethings are more in tune to the kids, the 9-5 job, and the house in the burbs.

Answer 11

I don't think there is any right age - it's about meeting the right guy and being ready...

My husband and I were married two years after we met - I was 24 (I'm now 27) and he was 25 - we're very happy. We have our first baby on the way and we both have great jobs. People sometimes think that you have to give up your life when you get married - It don't believe this - for us, our life just seems to get better and better :)