After having a conversation with my husband. I recently found that he belives that I am sexually selfish and/or lazy. He said that he wished that I was more sexually aggressive and assertive. But, he said he's always been sexually satisfied by me and this is something that transpired over time. Ok, clearly this confused the h*** out of me. What does he want? Be as detailed as possible. Oh yeah, I refuse to be/act crass or trashy. He's more of the romantic type he's into what would be considered as classy. I'm sure the more raunchy harder stuff is not his thing. And its just not sexy to me and I know thats not want he wants. And, no i'm not a prude. I love sex. I wish we had more time to have more sex. Please point me in the right direction. I wish it could be like it was when we were in college too.
2007-03-16 17:42:30 · 6 answers · asked by ...huh... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
quite possible that he just wants you to take more control by being more agressive during sex.
2007-03-16 17:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by none 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually he may be seeking sexual stimulation, and not the trashy kind.
Try a new nighty, short and teasing. Maybe garter straps. Even a little heavy makeup to accentuate the eyes. Anything that invites without the hooker invitation. Just enough to entice to cause his imagination to be stimulated.
2007-03-17 00:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by TenJac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you started a really good open conversation with him but didn't quite get finished. Restart and ask him what he means and wants. Asking the rest of the world won't work nearly as well for you!!!
2007-03-17 00:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Robin R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is in your question. You said he wants you to be aggressive. Means every time he takes the initiative to have sex. But you please also take the charge first. Hope it will make him more happy with you.
2007-03-17 00:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by dibesic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to inititate and take control of your "sexy time!" plain and simple - he's not asking you to be kinky, he's just tired of having to start the ball rolling and keep it rolling. Or at least that's what he appears to be saying.
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2007-03-17 00:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to initiate the act.
2007-03-17 00:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋