I'm 17, and I just hate being a teen. I feel like an old soul in a young body. Sometimes, I think that maybe I may be missing my childhood because of serious and "grown-up" demeanor. Some of my views are: friends are not really that important, parties are not important, teens really should not date, etc. I even don't feel the need to go to prom. It's like I've been there done that when I haven't. Right all I can think about is school, flip-flops (summer it's hot), career in psychology, getting married to "the one", compromising and raising our three/four kids (who I already have thought of names for), cherishing every moment of with them, spending time together, going on our family picnics, etc. So basically, I'm just working hard in school with the desire of getting married to a good guy after I have a career in psychology and having beautiful kids. The idea of going to the movies and hanging with friends just I dunno. I'm just way too mature to be a teen. I mean everyone I
2007-03-16 17:33:01 · 10 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
know automatically assumes that I'm not going to do drugs and type of type. I'm that responsible and mature.
2007-03-16 17:34:07 · update #1
I have even thought of looking at bedroom choices for my unborn children. Do you think that my behavior is normal?
2007-03-16 17:42:21 · update #2
I know that I am mature because all the adults tell me so and everyone else I know.
2007-03-16 17:44:18 · update #3
For anyone who comments that my childhood is not over, it kinda sorta is. I've been so mature for the last couple of years, I have lost that sense of childlikeness and ability to be a kid. I feel like an adult in a child's body.
2007-03-16 17:49:10 · update #4
hey....relax..the personality u have is not bad....i mean the world would be a better place if ppl started thinking like u..i mean responsible, concerned about the future...like ur education and your marriage..which is very important in every woman's life...and ur views on dating and prom is basically who u are...maybe its that u've had a good upbringing form a morally right family, maybe its your religion, or maybe its your view on how you should do things...u are not aging faster
maybe where u live teens dont think so deep, but my friends are all way serious thinkers and they do lead quite a serious life..(they're abt 18)..so its good that u take life seriously.
and the part abt meeting ur "one" and raising kids and tha whole family thing...maybe its what u long for..u know..like each of us have a goal or a dream..(mine is to buy a ford mustang GTR and ride it allover)..just dont get too caught up with it or else it'll be just a dream..
one thing more...parties and proms are not all that bad..its a form of socializing with ppl....as long as u dont get drunk and get laid...even grown ups like parties...u know the whole thing...if u dont like partying..its not that u are too mature for ur age..its just that u dont like it..i've got loads of frends who hate parties.. not cos they are mature or anything cos they are too shy to dance...u may not like the parties cos of the activities that happen in it...u should know....
hope this helped
2007-03-16 17:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by nirudafat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the question? Are you feeling like you're the only one? If so, then I can assure you that you're not. Nor are you wierd. It's just that you're anxious to get to be an adult. You probably feel like you're stuck between being a kid and an adult and you're tired of the kid phase and therefore just want to skip on to the adult phase.Well, seeing as you are 17, I can tell you that you are closer to being an adult now, but you still have a lot of things to experience. I'm glad that you are responsible and are making goals for yourself. However, I'm an adult that is mature and responsible, and I can tell you right now that I look forward to going to the movies and hanging out with friends, so PLEASE don't give that up. You need to hang out with friends and to relax at times. Don't pass up on your chance to be young. You're only truly young once. Now is the time to try new things--not drugs, alcohol or sex--but try dancing, singing, theater, sports, etc. You don't want to look back at your life and wish that you had done more things when you were younger.
2007-03-17 00:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by April W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this the wrong way, but just because you're thinking waaaay ahead doesn't imply maturity necessarily. It's great that you value school and want to pursue a career in psychology. If you want that, you know that family will come after achieving several of those goals. In the course of studying psychology, you'll learn the following:
1) Friends ARE important
2) Letting loose once in awhile IS important (doesn't have to be a party)
3) Teens SHOULD date (it teaches them a lot)
Are you planning your funeral too? First things first. You appear to be very intelligent and I'm sure you are very mature, but that doesn't mean you won't continue to grow and change.
2007-03-17 00:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly, you don't sound that mature. Spending all of your time day dreaming about your future marriage is not a sign of maturity. It is a sign that you are a teenage girl who is trying to deal with the shortcomings of life. Im sorry. It sounds to me like you don't fit in with the people you know right now, and so you choose to believe that you are more mature than them to make it feel better. There are a million people out there doing the exact same thing right now. It isn't uncommon. Dreaming about the future, when you have a family and a partner is the natural solution to feelings of loneliness. My advice is; quit caring about the people at your high school, and be yourself. Dont waste your day planning a future that is far away, and in reality will likely turn out completely different than you expect
2007-03-17 00:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way, but i think it is because I basically raised my sister and I because my mom was a alcoholic. And I have looked at baby furniture, and have names picked out, all of the above! Maybe some people just are that way by nature? I dont know really, it is all very difficult to understand, and going to therapy, doesnt come up with any better answers
2007-03-17 00:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a question.
Please stop worrying about starting a family and enjoy your youth. It wont last much longer. In not too long you'll be in college, then you will turn into a twenty-something and your childhood will be over! Cherish your friends! Life is nothing when lived alone.
2007-03-17 00:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by super_deformed_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the exact same way in highschool.....i still am.
sometimes i wonder if i really am just mature for my age, or if i can only think for the future and am incapable of enjoying the present.
when i do have the husband, kids, etc.. i wonder if i'll actually finally be satisfied? or will i still be waiting for something....
anyway,
my advice to you is think/feel/do whatever YOU feel is right, whatever makes you happy. Don't listen to other people's opinions on how you should live your life.
2007-03-17 00:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should feel blessed-God made you with all those traits so don't beat up on yourself=enjoy who and what you are especailly when we see how many of our youth are so imamture, can't make committments of any kind, have no goals . You are going to make something of yourself, gal and more power to you-
God's blessings to you Tiffany.
2007-03-17 00:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by marlynembrindle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so mature, why do you have these immature(idealistic) view of life?
2007-03-17 00:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by Willem V 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you aware that you never actually asked a question?
2007-03-17 00:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by wildraft1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋