ok i love my hubby very much but he is stressed so much and doesn't deal with our 3 young kids well and i am a no stress don't let anything bother me kinda person, live life for today. also if i don't want to do the "deed" he gets soo mad and irritated and rolls over and gives me a hard time and makes bed time dreadful..don't get me wrong he gets it like 2 times a week, we have been married 3 yrs. also always wants me to call and take care of business for him like he is scared to talk to people on the phone or in person if i say i don't want to then he gets grumpy with me and is an ***. these are the issues that make me unhappy sometimes. am i in a fairytale state or am i not wrong for thinkin i should be happier than this and be more respected especially when it comes to the bedroom?
2007-03-16 17:30:37 · 4 answers · asked by pookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should have learned about your husband's traits before you got married. If you did not, then you jumped into this with your eyes closed.
"Want to do the deed"? You make it sound like a repulsive task instead of a way of expressing your deepest felt emotions toward him. Perhaps if he was happier, then he would make sure that you were happy. Perhaps the two of you need to re-establish your relationship.
If you have 3 small kids in 3 years of marriage, then you have been pregnant for 3/4 of your married life. Believe it of not that is very stressful. The time you spend with your kids is time he used to have with you alone. This is not all his fault.
Start by telling him that you are unhappy and that you know his is unhappy too. Then ask how you (both of YOU) are going to fix this. Start by talking. Find time alone (get a baby sitter if necessary). Learn to enjoy each other's company again. Be each other's best friend and helper. Learn to do for the other instead of having the other do for you.
Experiment in and out of the bedroom. You only have one life so take control. Learn to please each other and everything else will not matter.
2007-03-17 02:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Pookie I think a compromise is in order here. If you search this question on how much is too much or too little for sex in say a weeks time, you will see a natural progression. As time goes on sex isn't as necessary. However, you've only been married 3 years. Is the spark out that fast for you that he only gets lucky twice a week? I mean I'm almost 50 and I get it more than that! So what's the compromise? He becomes more mature than what he's showing in respect to confrontations on the phone, and my guess paying bills. You get back to the norm in respect to sex! I know this sounds allot like Pavlov's dog routine. He does what you need he gets whoopee, he doesn't do what you need, he doesn't get rewarded! Sex in history has been one of the main reasons for change in men since "self help" books!
2007-03-17 11:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my husband and we have been married for 10 years now...you get used to it eventually...lol
2007-03-17 08:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made your bed lie in it or leave
2007-03-20 20:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋