Wouldn't it be better to be more selective and wait for that person whose touch takes your breath away, someone who gives you butterflies in your stomach, someone who gives you that cant eat, cant sleep, cant live without you feeling?
I know not every one can be that lucky but wouldnt it be worth it to be a little picky and marry someone that is worth keeping intead of divorcing? I was picky and i found mister right. and trust me divorce is not in the stars for us!
2007-03-16 17:29:10 · 17 answers · asked by Thumbs down me now 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In today's society, everything is quick and disposable. Relationships are more about appearance and sex than love and friendship. Far too many couples enter into marriage with the attitude that if it doesn't work out, we can always get an annulment or divorce. Then again, it seems that engagements are shorter also, so couples don't come to know each other. Back in the day, before computers, blackberries, cell phones, and when folks yelled at their kids for being on the phone too long, couples actually talked, dated, and even wrote each other letters. This allowed them to become familiar with each other, and learn things that endeared or annoyed them. From that, they had a better idea if the match was meant to be, or if there would be differences that would cause strife down the road. If things looked good, you got engaged, and then married. Today, too much emphasis is placed on the parties; the engagement party, the bachelor/bachelorette party, the wedding, and the wedding reception. Not enough emphasis on the marriage.
2007-03-16 17:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mangy Coyote 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it stems from the fact that if you can't live with yourself, you can't live with anyone else. A lot of people rely too much on their significant other and don't allow themselves to be independent. This may sound odd, but I think a person has to be independent (i.e be able to take care of themselves fully) before getting married.
Some may ask 'Why bother getting married then?', but that's the point, you will only find the person you can truly love if you can take care of everything else in your life on your own. This way there's no dependency and your significant other will be a bonus in your life, rather than an obligation, which makes the changes people go thru easier to take.
2007-03-16 17:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by mcmax20 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Wouldn't it be better to be more selective and wait for that person whose touch takes your breath away, someone who gives you butterflies in your stomach, someone who gives you that cant eat, cant sleep, cant live without you feeling?"
This is the exact reason so many people want to get a divorce. Those things you mention are initial feelings... the "falling in love" stage. Just because you're blinded by your enfatuation with someone doesn't mean you can spend a lifetime with them.
2007-03-16 17:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes but it takes more than taking ones breath away,butterflies etc to make a marriage, it takes responsibility and committment, as well as compatability and being choosey.Most people just fantasize about the honeymoon and throw the rest in the closet until the honeymoon is over.Then its too late.
2007-03-16 17:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree. Some people are meant for eachother. I want to wait for that special someone, and I personally would like to not get married at all than live a sad life divorced with kids I have to take care of now.
2007-03-16 17:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by <3 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I agree. I got divorced years ago, and she wanted to divorce. Now I'm re-married and she wouldn't divorce at all.
People shouldn't have divorce as a resource.
Everyone should straighten up their lives.
I finally got that person that gets butterflies and she gives me the same.
Thanks for your comment.
2007-03-16 17:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by SongMaker 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not every1 has what you have.but, maybe most people feel that way when they were married. the system has made it so easy for divorce,now we can get our marriage dissolved like it never happened,even after 20 years. and god isn't in people's lives like he should be.cheating on our spouses and moving on seems to be much easier for people these days,and all we can do is pray for them(every1). god bless you and your husband!!
2007-03-16 17:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think it is because you think some1 is one way but when you get married they don't need to worry so they don't care if they are at work all night or whatever and scenes change. you arn't 20 year old students anymore you are 30 year olds in a marriage with a house and kids holding down a fill time job.
2007-03-16 17:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I said the same thing (basically) when I met the father of my two children about 17 years ago...he is now my ex-husband. Nobody WANTS to get divorced - it is just a sad fact of life that S**T happens! Good luck with you and prince charming! (don't be suprised when he turns back into the frog) :)
2007-03-16 17:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy J 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, patience & wise choices are a lot less painful than divorces.
2007-03-16 17:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋