whenever i meet someone on line,or whenever someone is texting me, i become a friend, but i never want to take things further, when a guy talks to me i usually just believe that he is making friends with me because he wants to court my sister, or that i dont believe men who call me lovely and all that after looking at my profile, or i consider every thing that a man does to me as just a friendly act , cause there is no way someone would fall in love with me and those who do are not the ones i like, like i forever think i dont deserve the man i want. like i can text but not talk to him in person cause i think too much about what he sees in me, like im not ugly i usually get a lot of attention from men, its just that i am not sexy enough and that i dont want to go on a diet just so i could be confident in myself, cause i know it would be telling a lie to myself, i need to love myself without changing
2007-03-16 17:23:09 · 8 answers · asked by haringmarumo 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I've felt that way too, because it was usually true. But then I put my past hurts of men away and decided that there is a man out there for me that doesn't just want me for sex or that isn't a liar or cheater. There is someone out there for you that will accept you for who you are and you don't need to change!!!!
2007-03-18 14:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by stoutunicorn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unfair, but a bit silly perhaps.
This is common for young women to feel the way that you do. You are perfect and lovable just the way that you are. Stop trying to figure out if you are sexy or good looking and realize that these are all nonsense ideas that are temporary at best, but essentially irrelevant.
You are beautiful in your own way everyone is. You are not an exception to this rule.
Love and blessings Don
2007-03-17 09:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aning...u are so in need of being courted and seduced by a capable man.....my goodness! There is something deep inside you that needs to be worked out, until then the perfect man for you could find you on the street tomorrow and that still wouldn't be enough for you to be happy with him. Hmmmmm....
2007-03-17 00:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dieting won't make you lose weight. You have to change your habits completely if you want to lose it and keep it off.
Losing weight is "changing" you for the better. I think you're just making excuses for not having to work hard. What you're saying is "I want others to love me without me having to put in the effort". (Sorry for my bluntness, but I speak my mind)
And think of it this way: life is short. What's the worst that can happen, and is that really worse than you ending up lonely for the rest of your life?
2007-03-17 00:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by pedros2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have being unfair to yourself....have you hear, or learn anything about the world you are living in and what's happening to children all over the world. Please don't trust anyone, they could be nice and cute like a gold, but that's just the start of it.
Best wishes and good luck
2007-03-17 00:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by sherry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is alwasy good to be cautious of people you "meet" on line. That said, get over yourself. You are too wound up in your own image. Think a little more about others and concentrate on doing good rather than pulling yourself apart mentally.
2007-03-17 01:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
better safe then sorry i guess, seek out whatever they're hinting at might be your best move. And yes you are being kinda unfair to yourself by believeing this.
2007-03-17 00:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Profile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a fear of being hurt, same as I do, same as many of us do.
And yes, you are being unfair to yourself. When we have low self-esteem we are not being fair to ourselves.
Counseling can be very helpful.
2007-03-17 00:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋