im a stoner. im only in middle school but i don't fit in at all. i only have two friends and their guys. how can i fit in better. and dont say clothes because i wear hollister and abercrombie. will there be more stoners when i get to high school??
2007-03-16 16:55:24 · 7 answers · asked by beardedoctopus 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
In general the golden rule is good. If you want to recieve love, first you have to give it. Offer others love and kindness and many will ultimately offer you friendship in return. Fitting in isn't all its cracked up to be. A better goal is to seek to love and be loved, but on to your question...
I think the answer depends on what you mean by "fit in" Do you mean that you want to be accepted by others in your classes? If so that might mean significant changes in who you are and how you see the world... i.e. conformity... Like the Japanese proverb says, "the nail that sticks out gets hammered down." If you make a decision to live a life far outside the accepted norms of society, there's going to be a backlash. You're going to experience isolation. Many people conform and are no less happy or fullfilled in their lives because of it. Of course living a life that isn't really your own... Living one that is based on what others expect from you instead of what you yourself want out of life can be almost as painful.
If instead, by fit in, you mean that you want to come into more contact with others who look at the world the way you do and value your views and opinions, you need to activly seek out like minded people. If Abercrombie isn't you, if those are not the types of friends you want, you will not have much success trying to fit in if there are major differences in your world views and values. Maybe school shouldn't be the only place you look. If you decide that 'Stoner' is your identity and you want to make friends within that group, you might need to seek them out in other places. The first step, however is deciding once and for all who you REALLY are. That's a question that takes some people their whole lives to answer, but probably the most important one for anyone. You need to find that, then you will be able to start searching for you true niche, where you really DO fit in.
You have to know what shape the peg is before you can fit it in the right hole!
2007-03-16 18:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by David M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know it really is a lot simpler than you think. Firstly, as prom queen, I feel I can say drugs are NOT cool especially as a middle schooler. Nothing is going to go the way you want it to if you continue down that path. As a senior in high school I can tell you that yeah there are more druggies as you get older, but honestly it's not a way to fit in (more than anything these people are the 'rejects', and not the people who you want to spend your time with)
The most important thing to have people like you and "fit-in" is to be friendly, nice to people of all different groups and to have confidence in yourself. Just by doing this people will naturally be drawn to you and want to talk/ spend time with you.
2007-03-18 08:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by Casey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there will be so many stoners in highschool
trust me. there is a whole clique/group based on that.
2007-03-16 23:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by leelee. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what they think. I didn't care, just ignore them. God i wish i smoked weed back in school. Life is much better sense i started smoking. Life sucks and it always will, always has, but at least you can get high.
2007-03-17 00:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by whatthefuusername 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um, hmm, STOP BEING A DELIQUENT FREAK
duh
2007-03-17 00:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by wang 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be yourself
2007-03-16 23:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Edrew c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stoner = so not good.
Seriously, please, please don't do drugs.
2007-03-17 00:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋