My mom never listens to my side.?

Question

Okay so ughh I am in garde 9.
And today in math I asked my friend for a pencil.
My teacher gave me detention because according to her I was 'talking way to much'.
She called my mom and my mom was very,very angry.
When i got home I tried explaining that all I asked for was a freakin pencil and that my teacher exaggerated (sp?) way to much. My mom grounded me for 'talking in class' and for making up excuses.
My mom didnt even listen to me.
Now I am stuck in my room with no TV, phone, or computer (I have my ways of getting on here). Any suggestions on what I can say to my mom so that she listens to me and perhaps ungrounds me?

Answer 1

Just say all I wanted was a pencil.

Answer 2

It seems that moms are all notorious for doing this. There are only a few that I have ever known that actually listen to both sides of the story. In any case I have no idea ho you would get her to listen to you. Also its not the end of the world when there are no electronics available. Here are some reasons why my parents dont ground me and some ways to pass the time:

1. They can't ground me because I don't go anywhere to start with

2. I don't mind peace, quiet and total silence.

3. You could just read a book (thats my favorite way to pass the time)

4. Oh and here is THE ONE thing that you can do while grounded that will drive your mom nuts: Sleep. She wants to see you punished and sleeping isn't much punishment. It doesn't give her any satisfaction. What's nice is you won't be breaking any rules, you can get back at your mom, and you can catch up on a few ZZZ's.

Answer 3

some time has gone by since the incident, so hopefully you and your mom are both calmed down enough to discuss. you need to approach your mom in a calm, mature manner...no whining, raising your voice, etc. and choose a good time to approach her...not when she's busy, stressed out, etc. just simply state that you would like to discuss the phone call from your teacher. and don't talk in a disrespectful manner about your teacher or you won't get anywhere. state exactly what happened, without any drama. also tell your mom that you will work on being better prepared for class, by making sure you have all the supplies (pencils/paper) you need, so that you don't have to ask for any from your friends. you need to follow through on this though, if you want to be believed and have credibility in other areas of your life where there is going to be conflict. if the discussion is going well, i'd also state that you've been punished twice for the incident...detention and loss of privileges at home...just remember that if you want to be heard, you have to remain calm and collected. good luck with this.

Answer 4

did you swear or use swear like words when talking to her? (like freakin??) did you raise your voice to her? the best way to aproch someone is like an adult. No profanity, no yelling no matter how angry you are. Go up to her and ask CALMLY "mom may i please speak with you?" and start from there. Also the more responsible you are the more she will listin to you do chores around the house that she does not ask you to do, get good grades show her you are making an effort to be mature. A parent is more likely to belive a mature child over a child that does not do chores or is bad in school. And don't do it just to get off the hook parents can see through that quite offten do it all the time and i can almost garuntee she will start listing to you more. Also she is more likely to give you a tad bit more freedom as well

Answer 5

Tell her that if she wants the respect she deserves from you, then she has to give you the same amount of respect. your about 15 right, well thats about the age when she has to learn how to speak to you like a young adult, Let her know that your honest and tell her that he HAS to listen to your side of the story and take it into consideration, and if not shes gonna ruin the bond. BUT if you do love to make excuses, like most teens, then just listen cause excuses dont amount to much. If you would have probably said, "sorry I wont do it again" she probably would have let it slide. also to get your stuff back sooner, clean your room or suprize her by doing something responsible with out being asked.

Answer 6

"Mom, please listen to me. I have tried to tell you the truth, but it seems as if you prefer not to listen to my side. I can understand why you grounded me, seriously. However, I was speaking honestly when I said that the only reason I got detention was because I did not have my pencil with me, and my teacher was really over exaggerating. I hope you now believe me." Or something of the sort. Hope this helps!

God Bless!

Answer 7

get at her when she is in a smooth mood and tell her "mom about the call u had it was nt like that i just asked for a pencil and the teacher exaggerated and she called you "
and then say" well this is the truth " "u'll know who to believe"
love yah..!!
jeje
hope it works..

xoxo

Answer 8

find a time when she is not busy.calmly say-mom can i talk to you?tell her you really want her to listen to what happened so you can fix it-then tell your story-remember to be calm,make sure you dont exagerate and stick to the facts.dont lie!!!then tell her you dont talk in class(u dont do u-if so,change!)say-'i understand the reason for my punishment-i was talking in class.i said-"may i please have a pencil"i know i need to be punished when i do wrong-and trust that u know whats best for me . ' keep your punishment-and do it with a smile.if she sees you are trying to please her and are trustworthy-she wont be so quick to judge u next time and will listen to your side.
be sure not to laugh or smirk-it will blow the whole thing!!

Answer 9

Does this teacher give you more than one chance to screw up? Nobody's perfect. If you were my kid, and you had good grades I'd let it slide.

Tell your mom how wonderful she is, then do all the laundry, clean the entire kit chin til it SPARKLES and I bet she lets you off the hook!

Sometimes it's not what we say, its what we do.....

Good Luck

Answer 10

Try talking to her the next day