Do you think that they specifically hate us because we are gay or are they also prone to hating anyone who is different than they are? I think that hate is a learned condition. Do you think that they are really happy within themselves? I can't see anyone who hates as even liking themselves very much.
2007-03-16 16:38:22 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
oh, of course hatred is a learned behavior. no one is born hating everyone is different than they are...this is something that is taught by bigoted parents/family/friends. sometimes we are fearful of the unknown, but do we automatically hate, harass and destroy that which we don't understand? no! I don't think anyone raised in a loving family would naturally hate. perhaps an unhappy childhood is another factor....ones low self-esteem and hatred of self...and loneliness causing them to lash out at others? they can't possibly be happy people!
2007-03-16 16:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think the problem is that homosexuals and those who engage in homosexuality (including bisexuals) or who do not ascribe to the "proper" gender norms (transsexuals and many bisexuals) cause many heterosexuals stress because they feel compelled to follow the norms and GLBT people get to "cheat" and get away with it.
Evolutionary psychology has found that almost all humans have a sense that helps them detect when other people cheat (don't follow the rules) in social situations. This seems to be innate.
The rules, however, are learned and can be pretty arbitrary.
Additionally, most non-heterosexuals and non-gender conforming people can be perceived as a threat to the status quo and, consciously or unconsciously, to the system of control and power that's been created around gender.
Homosexual women usurp power seen as "rightfully" man's and homosexual men don't live up to their "rightful" position of sexual power over women. This is probably the reason for the concept of insulting homosexual men based on their non-dominance... and lesbians by ascribing male attributes to them (or non-feminine traits).
In a way, in their minds, it's a form of self protection...
"Hate is a behavior that is taught/learned by example and influence, and therefore hate is a choice. God does not tolerate hate, and all those who hate will answer to Him for it."
Which Bible have you been reading?
Religion, Christianity especially, is a behavioral control mechanism that uses social pressure, especially negative social pressure, to support a self-sustaining social machine. More than anything else, it is intolerant and portrays its deities as intolerant to disobeying the expected social norms.
Its where more heterosexuals get the rules they judge cheating against.
Deal with it, eh?
2007-03-16 17:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Deathbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is always a learned phenomenon. I'm straight, but I have a few gay friends, and one of my best friends on the planet is gay. I would never try to tell anyone who to sleep with from any gender, if only for one simple reason; no one is ever going to tell me who I can or cannot sleep with. It's a mutual respect issue. Rest assured, there are plenty of people who don't hate. Hate is based upon ignorance anyway.
2007-03-16 17:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe hate is not only a learned behavior, but also a sign of self esteem problems. If you breed hate you are hiding a problem about yourself, and yes you were taught to be that way. I don't believe it has anything at all to do with Race, Gender, OR Sexual Orientation. It ALSO stems from fear at times. You fear what you do not know (difference) and you hate what you fear. It's pretty much instilled in everybody at birth, by society, and family.
For example:
I was taught to accept everybody, but had some self esteem issues in high school. As a result I ended up saying I hated everybody, but it wasn't because of them, it was because of how I felt about myself.
2007-03-16 16:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Siren 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they were brain wash by parents who have low self esteem or jealous of other people's lifestyle, just keep in mind, if a person say a bad word or hateful word, the word have to go through their brain and mouth, therefore, they already dirty themselves before they can attack other.
BTW, why are so many people who dislike gay log in the LGBT section to answer question? Earn your point somewhere else.
2007-03-16 17:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by @!# 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has a lot to do with who they grew up with, what they see on television and what part of the country they live in. I grew up in a family that was (and still is) very racist, homophobic and disagrees with any lifestyle that is different from theirs. I have always known that they were wrong and so ever since I was little, I have followed my own beliefs.
I think that most people are too scared to build their own path instead of following others. They dont want to take the risk of agreeing with a homosexual lifestyle and ending up going to hell.
It's weird for me to see so many christians against homosexulity, because ever since i realized I was gay, my belief in God has become so much greater. if they could learn to love instead of hate, their life would be so much more happier.
2007-03-16 16:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that they are specifically taught to hate, but that they have been shown by example that hatred is an easier way out of dealing with their own shortcomings by making another person a scapegoat instead of facing the reality of their own deficiencies.
It takes both time and effort to make oneself a better person, but it takes little time or effort to say that another person or class of people are not "as good as you".
Those who consistently disparage others do so because they are unable to to say anything good about themselves.
2007-03-16 17:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are insecure and have a fear of things that are "different." Hate is not innate.
Being gay is not a lifestyle.
Its people like that (pointing to first response) that are the problem. You don't get the choice to say you like me, then in the same breath tell you don't like that I am gay. SHAME ON YOU for breathing another word.
2007-03-16 16:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you might have an interesting point there.
Humans like their world to be understandable and easily defined. We have a tendency to be afraid of that which we do not understand, just like some gays, regrettably, scream bloody murder the moment some Christian says glbt is wrong.
2007-03-16 16:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont see anything wrong w/ being gay. I mean I have 5 gay uncles!! What I dont like is when people going from likeing and being OK but then "finding god or whatever reason" and saying that they are going to hell. Thats a bunch of BS...my mother especially...since she's gotten all "godley" she's decided that her own brothers are going to hell GAH!! Love all people and good people go to heaven.....gay straight white black
2007-03-16 16:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by Christina U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋