She always gets like this when she is off her meds and I understand she is sick. I dont know whether to step back and wait till she gets better or be mad at her being a VERY bad friend. She goes off her meds atleast once a year and does through this.
2007-03-16 16:24:41 · 7 answers · asked by Kelly K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she's off her meds she can't be held accountable for everything she does, bc she has an illness.
Just find other things to do with other friends instead, until she is back on her regime and is feeling like socializing. You do deserve respect and don't have to put up with any emotional abuse though.
2007-03-16 16:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This responce is coming from someone who personally suffers from bipolar disorder. I know it's hard at times to understand your friend when she's not very sociable but do know that she is not intentionally being a Bad Friend to you. When we go through changes in our moods it's almost automatic that we tend to shut the world out. I know that it seems hard at times because you want your best-friend around to share all of your good and bad moments but she doesn't love you any less. you just have to decide if you can cope with the ups and downs with her. You must be a great friend, just by seeking advice. I wish both you and your friend well whatever you decide! oh yeah try not to tell her she's being a bad person to you right now, it may make her feel like shes failed you as a friend and she may get more depressed. if anything let her know you just called to say hello. small talk and when she seems stronger talk to her. but by all means encourage her to continue her medication. but don't be pushy. I hope I helped in some form.
2007-03-18 09:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by universal love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is probably the last thing you want to hear, but people with bipolar struggle ridiculously each and every day of their lives. not taking the medication is often related to the illness itself (during a manic phase, they don't feel the need to take medication). please try to understand that imbalances in her brain motivate her to behave in these ways. she wouldn't be able to be a good friend if she's that dependent on medication. i see you as having two options.. either being her friend and accepting that her bipolar may not allow her to be the best friend to you at times, or by distancing yourself from her because you deserve a friend to treats you well all the time. although she is sick, you don't deserve to be treated poorly. i hope that helped. maybe if you told her (when she was taking the meds) how much it hurts your feelings when she stops and treats you badly, she'd think twice about stopping them.
2007-03-16 16:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by lauren085 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU SAID SHE WAS YOU BEST FRIEND, HOWEVER SHE IS BI-POLAR. THIS IS A HARD ONE> BI-POLAR PEOPLE CAN BE THE GREATEST IN THE WORLD UNTILL THEY GO OFF THEIR MEDS. THAN WATCH OUT!! WHAT I WOULD DO IS TELL HER THE TRUTH WHEN SHE IS ON HER MEDS!! LET HER KNOW YOU ARE HER FRIEND, HOWEVER, SHE KNOWS TO STAY ON HER MEDS, AND SHE KNOWS WHEN SHE GOES OFF OF THEM THAT SHE IS NOT A GOOD FRIEND TO YOU AND THAT PUTS A STRAIN ON YOURFRIENDSHIP SO...YOU ARE CHOOSING TO WALK AWAY WHEN YOU SEE SHE IS OFF MED'S AND FOR HER TO GIVE YOU A CALL WHEN SHE IS BACK ON THEM. OR YOU CAN CHOOSE TO TOUGH IT OUT AND BE THERE FOR HER THROUGH THICK AND THIN. ITS REALLY UP TO YOU AS TO HOW MUCH YOU ARE WILLING TO GO THROUGH FOR YOU BEST FRIEND. YOU ARE IN A SITUATION EITHER WAY IT GOES. I WISH YOU LOTS OF LUCK!! I REALIZE IT IS HARD BUT TRY NOT TO GET SO ANGRY AT YOUR FRIEND. SHE WOULD PROBABLY BE LOST WITHOUT YOU. YOU JUST HAVE TO MAKE A DECISION AS TO IF U CAN HANDLE HER ILLNESS OR NOT!~!
2007-03-16 16:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by sash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is on meds, then you need to keep in mind that this is completely out of her control. Try talking to her about it, and ask if you can be warned when she'll be off of her meds so you can prepare yourself or avoid her.
2007-03-16 16:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by Tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have bipolar friends and they appreciate when you tell them they're acting irrational. They may hate you at first, but later they'll realize that you were right (assuming you were) and be happy that you're still their friend after everything.
2007-03-16 16:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by punk pirate 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not if you know these things about her. Friends are suppose to be there thru all things I would say.
2007-03-16 16:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋