Rude Friend?

Question

I have this friend and she basically speaks her mind whether its nice or not. If she doesnt like something she'll be rude about it and its really annoying and i tell her shes rude and everything but shes too ignorant to change. Like today i showed her this really cute shirt i liked and she totally just threw it back in my face and was like ewww thats soooo ugly. Seriously how can i get her to stop? I cant stand it!!

Answer 1

your friend is honest but not in a good way
shes "rude-honest"
good honesty exists
for example she could speak her mind in a posistive manner
its really easy
i.e "i'm not feelin that shirt"
but she is too ignorant to change so it may be improbable
just tell her to be positive if she must be honest

Answer 2

Since she is so quick to be rude in your face like that, I'd give her a taste of her own medicine. Just let her know how her rudeness like that bugs you and that you'd appreciate it if she would refrain, at least with you. If she doesn't take it well, then I would just tell her what a bi*** she is being when she acts that way and you might not keep her as your friend if she can't be any different. Maybe she realizes she's doing it and maybe she doesn't. Snobs are just too annoying to let it get you down when getting rid of her would solve your problem. You may have to move on and leave her behind. Tell her first and see what happens then go from there. Good luck!

Answer 3

Both of you are just different. Tastes can be different. It's understandable that she may not like the same shirt as you.

But she has no right to throw the shirt back in your face. Since she's already so rude, tell her off nicely or nastily. "I know we have different tastes in this xxxx... but you do not have to throw the shirt at me. That's so rude." Throw the shirt back at her if you want (opt). Perhaps, you should consider going out with another friend for shopping since she's "not appropriate" to be your shopping buddy.

I believe she's too used to being critical, rude & maybe being different from you to show that she's unique... Or it could be her upbringing where her family is used to this "behaviour"... Whatever... Tell her that "Although you're rude, I still treat you as a friend... But you continue to be ignorant & rude, I'm not sure how long I can be your friend. I seriously hope that you'll be less rude & change for the better for yourself & your family & friends.

Do not worry about telling her. Good friends advise each other to be better people. And if she's a nasty friend, you have the right to tell her off too. And hope she will wake up & change.

If she refuses to change, at least you did what you could do already. The rest is up to her. She has the free will to decide for herself. If being with her affects you to be angry / down / sad / upset / annoyed / frustrated, you may want to seriously consider your friendship with her. No point being with someone who brings you down all the time. Friends should uplift one another instead & bring you up when you're down.

Well, keep an open mind & open heart & accept the way she is. If you can still handle her "nonsense" then carry on the friendship with her. If not, stay clear from her. You can still standby & get ready to be her friend when she needs one. Because you're gracious to her. Perhaps, she'll learn to be nice to you when you're nice to her in future.

Answer 4

i think the best thing you could do would be to tell her how you feel. saying that she's rude would only inspire her to be more rude because she feels insulted, in my opinion. if you said something like "i feel hurt because i really liked that shirt. i feel like you're not being respectful of my opinions." and see how she reacts. chances are she doesn't know that you're this upset over it. if she really makes you that angry and won't change after you talk, try ignoring her for a few minutes. if she asks you why you're ignoring her, simply tell her its because she hurt your feelings and you don't deserve to be spoken to in that way, especially by a friend. it sounds like she needs a lesson in respect.

Answer 5

I had a similar "friendship" with a girl I had known for 14 years (at the time I decided it was too much). I stopped spending as much time with her, and she realized she wouldn't keep friends around treating them that way. It took her a while to "grow up" and see that no one liked her rude comments and disregard for their feelings, but she came around and has since apologized to me, and we are now good friends again.

Answer 6

I have a friend thats just like that. Honestly just go up to her and be like I'm sick of this and you have to change. Nobody likes someone like that you don't like people being mean to you so stop being mean to people. Even if she tells you she's kidding tell her you dont take things like that as a joke!!

Answer 7

just show her that you don't care about her stupid opinions. tho that'll probably just piss her off, at least you won't feel as pissed off. i mean, you like that shirt, and if she says it's ugly, say that you don't care, you want it, and you'll buy it. why let her get to you? tell her to get a life. but that's only IF you wanna just stab her down with total annoyance. otherwise, just laugh off the fact that she's like that. just speak your mind, and not say anything that would be a direct hit for her. like, when she says she doesn't like something, but you do, you can just say, "oh well, i still like it." and if she laughs at you, don't mind her. she'll appear like the loser. you can just go like "pff..whatever." laugh, then move on to whatever you're gonna do next. she does her thing, you do yours.

Answer 8

you can't stop her unless she gets the same treatement.she has to understand that she hurts others by being too straight.these are people who have no feelings for others.best way is to return the same.like if she asks you' whats the time?you reply 'don't you have a watch?or if she say's nice dress,you reply 'you should wear glasses' and so on.sting when ever you can,then she will definetly passify.

Answer 9

First you should try talking to her about it and you know what you should be happy to fin a friend who would tell you the truth you don't find that in everyone today at less that what I thin while I hope you find your answer good luck

Answer 10

You need to grow up! We are all different for a reason! If you dont agree with what she likes and you know you guys dont agree then dont talk about it! If she is a real friend to you that stuff wont bother you! maybe it is you that has the problem! Maybe you are the rude friend by being mad at her! If you dont like it them dont talk to her!