Why are so many men afraid to be in touch with their feminine side!?

Answer 1

being a married male, i ADORE being dressed in gowns/wig/heavy make up/corset/layers/gloves/puffy shoulders/panties/petticoats/hoops/etc.

for years, i was afraid to try this until my wife was open to it. i was brought up as a typical male just that i had a femme side. is engrained in us that it's wrong and shameful. but few of us venture to trying this side.

Answer 2

What we may perceive as 'feminine' traits are of course present in everybody, to differing degrees. Basically more so in women.

Our cultural norms and beliefs in the west have come to devalue what is feminine - it's part of why women are still paid less then men! We're still largely governed by aggressive macho men - think of arrogant Bush.

Each person wants acceptance, so we have conformed to some extent, to the norms around us, such that we suppress those personality traits that are disapproved of etc. With a lifetime's learning and adaptation it's often difficult for some men to really connect with their feminine side. Not that it's like being Jekyll and Hyde, just that many men have turned something in them closer to the 'off' position. For example, emotional intelligence is only recently being recognised and valued as important.

Good luck! Rob

Answer 3

Some of us aren't! I came to love that side of myself after some years of porn and prostitutes when I realised I wasn't so very different from those I was in awe of. More years of confusion followed, of fitting neither into gay or straight camps whilst seeking love and acceptance from both genders. In Ken Akamatsu's manga series "A.I.Love You", I finally found an androgynous character that changed gender at the drop of a hat and was fascinated. I am emotional for a man and don't care about the things that men are supposed to care about but equally I have strength and I'm not afraid of hard work. I'm not drawn to gay sex but I embrace the colourfulness of gay life (example: Kylie's comeback Showgirl Tour on TV the other day.) . I guess many men are afraid to be criticised and since people have criticised me from an early age, I learnt to do whatever pleased me rather than trying to blend in.

Answer 4

Why are so many women afraid of men that are in touch with their feminine side?

Maybe the concept got murdered along with "nice guys" and "sensitive men?"

Answer 5

what's feminine though? i hate when people think that it's about wanting to go shopping, or crying at sad films or being overly affectionate. all i think it should mean is that they have no need to assert their masculinity all the time, be able to address why they feel a certain way or be more considerate of others feelings, less aggressive. i think, by and large, guys are getting it very near right these days. there's so much pressure on them to appear tough but be able to cry... it's nonsense. a man will never be a woman, and likewise a woman will never be a man. we should all stop harassing each other and embrace our differences.

Answer 6

Sunshine you know better than to ask that, because you already know. Some people are CD, some are TS. And a lot of men would just love to do it but are frightened of what their wives will say. Yes ok you may understand but a lot of women dont. I am not saying that your bf or husband does this but would you condone it for all men ? You obviously know by the way you asked the question.

Answer 7

I think its a mater of interest. If part of me really wanted to take ballet, put frills on my curtains, and watch sex in the city then i would. I'm just not interest in doing those things.

Maybe if i found a girl that was really into a particular activity or way of looking at something i could become interested.

Isn't that a girls job, to help guys see that beauty and spirituality in the world? Maybe women aren't explaining these crazy emotions they are having well enough. Most guys are pretty open minded. Especially if there are baked goods involved.

Answer 8

I am totally in touch with my feminine side every single day!

Answer 9

Why are so many women afraid to jump into a boxing ring or put on football pads?

It is a false dichotomy to declare that one particular set of characteristics is "feminine" and another "masculine." Men and women share most of their characteristics, but display them in different amounts. There are women who are inarticulate, and there are men who are eloquent. There are women who are strong, and men who are weak. None of these elements is the pivot on which one's gender turns. Instead, it is the element of individual personality that emerges over time.

Your question suggests that men do not want to be seen as feminine, and many times that is true. They have been taught through the years that to act in stereotypically feminine ways is shame producing, and in order to maintain their dignity they must continue to follow the masculine stereotype.

However, stereotypes are not reality. And if you get someone in a safe place, where their dignity is assured, you can then get to know them.

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Answer 10

I do not think I have a feminine side. If I did I would probably go to jail for molesting my self and have no need to find a real female with a real feminine side and have my way with her.