I really want a BABY?!?! Im still in college...?

Question

Im still in college (I hate it), I dont have a bf, Ive never had sex or anything but I really want a baby.

I know how irresponsible it is to just get knocked up and how hard that would be.
I really want a husband & father for my baby and everything.
But I cant help but want a baby.
Maybe Im bored and I feel like I need to be loved? I read about ppl feeling that way a while ago. Idk.

Answer 1

Having a baby IS a big responsibility. You need to think about the BABY first, and put aside your own wants and desires. That starts BEFORE you have the child. Finishing school, being in a good potential financial situation, and finding the RIGHT guy to father that child will make you a good mother. Just having a baby because you feel like it will not. Do not even consider having a baby until you KNOW you are ready. Being "bored" is definitely not good enough! Forgive me for sounding so preachy, but I am only thinking of your best interest and the baby's.

That said, it is natural to feel the way you do. Part of what you are feeling are natural, motherly instincts. Part of it may just be, like you said, boredom... or even depression or loneliness. You say you hate school. You say you have no boyfriend. Perhaps your REAL problem are THESE things. You should consider talking to your doctor about these feelings. She might have some really good advice for you. In the meantime, study hard, get some exercise, eat right, and find some time to have fun. I guarantee you'll feel better. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well i am a mother of a 2 year old and im 21. Dont get me wrong i love my daughter. I use to think that way too. When there babies they cant give you that love that ur looking for. Its really hard being a young mother. You should wait until you are where u wanna be in life and maybe when your able to see ur situation a little clearer. Having a child should not be a ove night descison. It should be a well though out idea. Getting married would be a good idea and then maybe waiting a year or two so u and ur husband have time for ur self. Dont rush in to having children there is always time to have them ur only in college

Answer 3

I remember REALLY wanting to be a mom when I was in college. But I am SO glad I waited!!

While it would be wonderful to have a beautiful child in your life, you can't even begin to imagine the joy it brings when you SHARE that experience with your spouse! It is a hundred times more meaningful!

I love looking at my son and seeing my husband's facial expressions or features. I love being able to tell my husband all the cute things our son said/did while he was at work. Without having a partner to share parenthood with, I would really be missing out!

Not to mention, there are times when you NEED that other person to take over. After a stressful day of tantrums, or an all night cry-a-thon, you physically and emotionally need your spouse to support you and give you a break!

I know it can feel hopeless when you are single and the prospect of a family doesn't seem to be in the immediate future...but just think of how much happier you will be if you wait for the RIGHT MAN, instead of rushing into things with the wrong one!

Answer 4

Wanting to have a baby when you don't have bf nor husband is really a problem.

Maybe the first thing that you should do is find the man that you can be with forever. Having a responsible husband and father of your child is the best thing that you should have.

However, if you really want to have a baby even though you have no bf nor husband, then you have two options to do:

1) Go to the social welfare office and go get a child that will be adopted.

2) Go find a man that can give you the baby of your own you are looking for.

However, praying to God (if you believe in God) will really help you. Go and pray to God.

Answer 5

Wait......Finish school and find that husband and get married. You don't want to have a baby and struggle finding a job, money etc. Babies cost a lot of money. Go work in a daycare after school and alot of screaming, crying kids will cure your need for a baby right now. Or at least it will fullfill your need for a baby for the time being until your in a better time in your life to have a child.

Answer 6

Its just your biological clock, a lot of gurls get it off and on from as young as 16-17 all the way untill they cant anymore. At 19 i wanted one really bad for a while. Get an animal to take care of for a while, or babysit for somebody for a LONG period of time. that usually does the trick. when i started teaching sunday school for 3-4 years olds i didnt get it nearly as much, or even at all, you may want to look into volunteering in something like that or working at a day care. Just don't do anything drastic. It will eventually just go away. It will of course periodically come back, but its nothing weird or anything, many women get it.

Answer 7

First of all stay and finish your college education, go out and date different people, have fun with your friends..live life to the fullest, find the right man...settle down and get married, but don't be in any hurry..enjoy your life while your young, believe me a baby at your age you won't be bored but your young years will be spent careing for this baby... when you are a little older you will have the time to devote to children...and be there for them and not wondering about the things you should have done when you were younger, believe me, I had my first child when I was young...now at 37, I wish I did my life in the order I put them to you....stay in college, I know what I'm saying....Good luck

Answer 8

Maybe it will help if you remember that you'd be having a human being, not a 'baby'. The baby will go away after a few years, and be replaced by a child, a teenager and then an adult.

You may feel that you have what it takes to look after a helpless new-born, but how about that adult?

CD

Answer 9

I am in college too and I feel like I want a baby too, but i have to face the facts of life. I am not in the right position right now to provide for he child in every way possible, so for both the benefit of myself and the "child"...I decided to wait.

Answer 10

WELL I CAN TELL YOU MY FIRST CHILD WAS BORN WITHOUT ME BEING MARRIED OR IN A REAL SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP. AND WHILE I LOVE MY SON DEARLY IT WAS TOUGH!! I GOT MARRIED WHEN HE WAS 3 AND MY HUSBAND AND I WENT ON TO HAVE 3 BABIES OF OUR OWN. MY EXPERIENCE IS THAT IT WAS SO MUCH MORE ENJOYABLE AND EASIER WITH A PARTNER. WHILE I COULD NEVER IMAGINE MY LIFE WITHOUT MY OLDEST SON I FEEL FOR HIM FOR BRINGING HIM INTO THE WORLD. HY HUSBAND IS GREAT TO HIM AND TREATS HIM LIKE HIS OWN BUT MY SON KNOWS THAT HE HAS ANOTHER DAD THAT IF WE ARE LUCKY CALLS 2 TIMES A YEAR. HE NEVER SENDS BIRTHDAY OR CHRISTMAS CARDS EITHER. THE ONLY THING HE DOES IS PAY HIS CHILD SUPPORT CAUSE HE IS FORCED TO. MY ADVICE IS WAIT. NOT ONLY FOR YOU BUT FOR THE CHILD YOU WILL BRING INTO THE WORLD THAT MIGHT GO THOUGH THE SAME DIFFICULTIES THAT MY SON DOES.