Somebody told me that another person was talking about me bad behind my and I didn't appreciate it so i sent them a message telling them how i felt. They just denied it and made 5 of my friends turn their backs on me. This friend that i have is always startig fights. Any suggestions on what i should do, to try to repair this relationship? Even though i have a feeling i shouldn't repair it and that i should just leave it alone and not to stay her friend because in the end i just get hurt. Help?
2007-03-16 15:44:08 · 17 answers · asked by Maddie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
find new friends and choose them carefully, cause they were not your friends
2007-03-16 15:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the she said this and he said that is high school garbage. Unless you hear someone say something about you then you should NEVER assume that the person repeating the gossip to you has it right or that it is the truth. They may have an agenda that you don't know about. Not to mention they may have only heard one part of a conversation and have it all wrong.
Gossip will only make trouble for you. Your best bet is to always ignore it. And never engage in it. You'll never win, & it will never stop as long as you believe it and react to it. Although it may hurt when you think people are talking about you if you ignore it something else will come along in a day. Always remember: What goes around comes around!!
2007-03-16 15:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are so catty and clicky it drives me crazy. I am sure you are probably in high school or something because as you get older things like this don't happen often (they still do but not as bad) I feel like girls love to gang up on one person because they feel inferior and know the one girl cant compete with five others. Girls like to talk behind each others back and all want to be the popular one who is in with the click and the girl on top needs someone to make feel like they are crap. Anyways I am in college and my friends still once in a while start some drama like this and get all clicky and gang up and talk ****. It use to drive me crazy I would cry thinking I have no friends. Ive realized though it is so pointless to even worry because you always become friends with them again it may be uncomfortable for a few days or even weeks but people get over things even the worst of things. What I do and it does work I just ignore it completely I just continue as normal if I see my friend I say hi and if they are a ***** whatever they will get over it and first and for most I have myself to worry about. Everything happens when its meant to and you just need to worry about you dont worry about them. I would lose myself all I could think about was how my friends were mad, but I dont anymore I worry about my life and continue doing my thing everything always works it self out
2007-03-16 16:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by marissa w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your own hunches on this. Doesn't sound like this "good friend" is really that after all. You'll be better off finding yourself another friend. Next time don't pick someone with the same characteristics. Take your time choosing friends. The ones who are supportive of you will last a lifetime. Friendships need to be nurtured without moral judgments and accepted for who they are, warts and all.
Sorry you're in this pickle, but sh*t happens, doesn't it?
2007-03-16 15:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by MJ D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hold my head high and walk away. This so-called friend of yours sounds like she likes to be the center of attention and the reason she does this is to boost her own ego- no matter who's feelings she hurts. It will be tough at first, but act like it's nothing to you and she will let it go pretty quick because you are no longer feeding her the reactions she so craves.
She doesn't sound like a very good friend, and it's really sad that she is so insecure that she needs to trash people to get attention.
2007-03-16 15:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Smooch The Pooch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really want it to work out, try to apologize to this person first for your part. Then, you really need to talk and try to resolve this problem with starting fights.
If this person insits on constantly starting fights and won't change...you may be better off without them as a friend. In that case, let them know you will be there for them as soon as they change.
2007-03-16 15:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by sonreyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to urself, why would u want to be friends with one that hurts u always? And if those other so called 5 Friends turned thee backs on you cuz of here say, then you need to be more careful on your choosing of friends, and friends like that u don't need. Move on and be more choosy. Good Luk.
2007-03-16 16:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like your friend is a drama queen and likes to stir things up. Who needs kaous in their life? Life is alot more fun with out all the drama and he said she said crap.
2007-03-16 15:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by zart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fighting over the internet is like being in the special olympics, you might win but your still retarded
2007-03-16 15:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by woundshurtless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to just ignore the situation. It will blow over.
2007-03-16 15:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by fritzpatch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋