A little background on me- I am a gay male and recently met a guy who really likes me or so it seems. The problem is he does not seem to be over his ex, does not have a steady job nor does he have a car on the road. He lives about 30-45 minutes away and I do not like driving and putting the wear and tear on my car (the car is not that reliable). The biggest problem is he calls me all the time. Its not that I don't want him to call but I just need my own time to do things on my own. He is a supersweet guy and compliments me all the time but I am just getting overwhelmed by all of this. I am hoping for some good positive answers because I am not the type that wants to hurt someones feelings because its been done to me so much. Please advise.
2007-03-16 15:42:02 · 8 answers · asked by sumofallthatisdum 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Only answer the phone when you want to talk to him. All other calls, let the answering machine/voice mail take the call. When you return his call(s), let him know you "had other things you wanted/needed to do". You can also tell him that he can call you anytime he likes, but you are only able to answer (one or two) of his call (each day/every other day/each week/etc.). If he wants you to come see him, be honest. Tell him you can only make the trip (once a week/month/year) and no more because your car isn't that reliable.
2007-03-16 16:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by AusBill2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wake up and smell the roses...you are being used for rides, I am sure you do a lot of "treating" when you go out, and for what? A guy that is not over his ex? Perhaps it is time to act like a man and say, "Sorry, not tonight...I have things to do." No steady job, no car...this guy is a real winner, isn't he? If I were to ask you the same question, I suspect you would laugh and say, "dump him." Good luck
2007-03-16 23:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be tactfully honest and tell him that you need your space because he's a nice guy but you do have priorities and responsibilities to handle.
Secondly, get him to meet other people. He seems to need love and support and you don't have to be the only source.
2007-03-16 22:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be helpful to be fairly honest with him. "Bud, I'm enjoying getting to know you, but I need a little space, and you seem to have a lot to work on yourself... so let's see each other in a few months for lunch" or something.
2007-03-16 22:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more honest with him... tell him the truth like you just discrib it. Tell him that you need your space. That's all! man... I would not like to be in love with someone like you. Because you can not tell me how to please you. If I would be in love with you that's mean I want your happiness man. Be free and play with me when ever you are free.
2007-03-16 23:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know your boundaries. If you ever think that there is a possibility with this guy set some ground-rules for yourself.
2007-03-16 23:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is a little bit out of my league ,but i think the best thing to do is to just tell him the truth,that is how u feel.Probably he'll understand.
2007-03-16 22:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by shere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two should talk...honesty is a good place to begin.
2007-03-16 23:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋