so, all my uber good friends and i wanna throw a luncheon.
but there's this other girl that thinks we're her best friends but we're really not. she gets on our nerves ALL THE TIME.
we dont really wanna invite her, but if we dont, we'll hurt her. and we wanna void hurting her feelings.
so do we invite her or not?
2007-03-16 15:41:59 · 29 answers · asked by jumanjifaceee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if shes going to bring down the party dont invite her... or just keep it hushhush... rather than telling her she cant come just try to avoid bringing it up... and do the planing when shes not around.. and if she asked why you didnt invite her tell her you didnt think she would want to go...or that you didnt think she was into that sort of thing...
if you all want her to leave you alone then just tell her that your sorry but you dont think she should come... try not to be too heartless tho!
2007-03-16 15:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by little missy--->♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a chance she will find out about your luncheon later and you really don't want to hurt her feelings....invite her. The worst that can happen is a few awkward moments. The bottom line is you have fun with your other friends. By inviting her, you may find out there is more to her than what has been annoying you. If she still annoys you, at least you didn't hurt her feelings and have to run into her all the time. Guilt is worse than inviting her in the first place.
2007-03-16 15:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Smooch The Pooch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truth be told, i had this same problem a couple of years ago. If you really, really, REALLY dont like this girl, ask her if she can give you and your friends some space. its better to tell her now, then dragging this thing on and making yourslef suffer, it would also hurt her more when you tell her.
You may want to invite her to your party if she's bearable. you may think she's annoying now, but try and atleast spend some time with her. after a while you may start to like her a bit more, or even become friends. it's always worth a try, even if you really cant stand her right now.
2007-03-16 15:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've experienced this problem too many times myself. My suggestion is is that you NOT invite her. You and your friends don't want her there, and you shouldn't have to chance ruining something fun just to avoid hurting her feelings.
That being said, you should also try not to "encourage" her by letting her think that you are friends. Start distancing yourself and drop subtle hints to let her know that she's not welcome. It may sound mean, but in the end it's really the best thing for everyone. Good luck!
2007-03-16 16:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by rjs6281 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just invite her....it's not always easy to do the right thing. What's the worst that can happen? Your kind actions are the best protection against other people's unkind actions. Meaning, the nicer you are to people (whether you want to be or not) the nicer people will be to you. In other words, few people will have anything negative to say about you. Just tolerate her for a few hours, you might just make her day.
2007-03-16 15:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by CherBear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your hurting her by not telling her how you really feel about her. if she gets on your nerves ALL THE TIME then let her know that. quit being her so-called friend because your really not. don't play with her feelings like that. tell her the truth and if you guys don't want to be her friend anymore then LET HER KNOW, then you don't have to worry about not inviting her to the party, you just don't.
2007-03-16 15:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by sexie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you'll hurt her feelings more if you invite her then shun her. If you are open to maybe letting her into the circle that might be a good reason to invite her.
2007-03-16 15:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good ahead invite her. She might meet some other people and turn out to have a great time. Who knows you all might like her too.
2007-03-16 15:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ists nice of u to think of this persons feelings but i would rather be invited cuz u liked me,not out of pity:Dit will make things worse if u do!!!!!
2007-03-16 15:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kim C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends if you and your friends are going to be nice to the person at the party and after.
If not than don't invite the person.
don't give someone a false hope of a friendship.
it's just cruel to hurt peoples feelings.
2007-03-16 15:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋