He's never around. He's always working, or somewhere else. He blows me off for pointless stuff he should have done a few days ago. My mom and I have talked with him, he doesn't understand.. How do I make him understand?
2007-03-16 14:54:29 · 12 answers · asked by Love is Patient, Love is Kind ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I want to say ignore him but he might not notice. Write him a letter telling him how angry you are. He might read it, he might not... Tell him how you feel. You might not think he is listening but maybe he is... Good luck!
2007-03-16 14:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that what he has with you is only temporary. You see, one day you will grow up, and one day he will die. What is life all about? Why die with lots of money? Everyone is here only for a short time and the number one priority in life is to live for the day.
Last month my fiancees father suddenly died, and it gets you thinking about what you have even though you dont even see it sometimes. Tell him this. I do not know him, but like many people he is probably stuck in the rat race, trying to "be successful" and make it in life. However this gets you thinking all wrong. You think that everyone will be around forever, and once you get that next promotion or build up your home more, you will have time to spend with your family. This is never the case. These people keep on working and going for some next step and don't realize what they missed out on until it is too late. So ask him... What are you actually working for? What are you trying to accomplish? and let him know nobody is guaranteed tomorrow.
2007-03-16 15:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by michael p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work these days is very demanding. Does your mom work or does she stay at home. Your Mom might not understand how demanding jobs are these days. Try asking your Dad when a good time would be to get together. Hope that helps.
2007-03-16 15:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by BR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are in a really bad environment. I would go and stay with relatives until your mother makes up her mind on what she should do. Just pray about the situation and you continue to do your best at what ever it is. I know that parents play a big role in validating their children. But believe me as long as you are doing the right thing that is all that matters. You are validated by the results that you receive.You can do anything you put your mind to do. keep a positive out look on life. I will keep you in prayers. And I pray that the best works out for for whole family.
2016-03-29 02:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't do anything drastic to get his attention. Don't do anything you'd regret later on.
Remember that parents are not perfect. They don't always do what they are 'supposed' to do but it does not mean you aren't worth it. I am sure your dad would die for you. He must be going through something right now that is taking a toll on him.
I would write him a letter telling him how I feel and always be respectful to your parents even when what they do makes you angry. They are just "people" who happen to be our parents.
Meanwhile, remember that you are special and take care of yourself. Pray if you believe,for your father and try not to take his aloofness personally.
Men and women are so different and how your father is acting, is pretty common.
2007-03-16 15:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by myoctoberblues 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of that song (cats and the cradle and the silver spoon, little boy blue and the man in the moon, when you comin home dad, i dont know when but we'll get together man, we're going to have a good time then)
I think it is by jim croce
try playing that for him.
2007-03-16 15:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure, i live wit my dad not my mom. im a big daddys girl so i dont have this problem. i would try to enjoy him not bein around. dads r protective and once he starts payin attention it will b 24/7 bodyguard service and it can get annoyin, i love my dad but i wish he was lik ur and blew me off sometimes. mayb u should pay attention to him to. do wut i do. give him a kiss and hug when u get home from school. dont say omg, or roll ur eyes when he asks about ur day. chances r u r as disconnected as he is. u want a dad around but when u have him i bet u blow him off. my friend lives wit her mom and is always whinin that she barely goes to her dads. but when she is at her dads she comes to my hosue or goes out and ignores him. do u drive? work? sometimes hwen i feel lik me and my dad havent talked for a while i just say hey dad can i treat u to dinner this friday? and we go out to dinner on friday mayb catch a movie and have father/daughter time. make the effort dont only expect him to.
2007-03-16 15:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by Calista 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this is too big a task. He will only understand what he is ready to accept. From his behavior with you, I am not quite sure he is ready. His mind is with his work or other things. Sorry to be so blunt.
2007-03-16 15:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think, he's ignorant? Just because you don't know.what might be going thru his mind.
Maybe,hes trying to find an answer. But its taking time. so he need to keep himself occupied. Because, sooner or later, he knows he going ot have to face you.
Its just a matter of when.
Maybe he already ,knows what you are going ot say.
2007-03-17 08:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm sure you can't.
i accepted a long time ago that my dad just didn't want to put the effort into having a relationship with me.
sorry.... it's hard, not just for awhile, forever i think. it is never easy to accept something like that.
2007-03-16 14:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by tinkbostwick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋