For three years since third grade,I had been in a charter school called BCSA,and in there,they kept us from the real world by prohibiting so much as an awquared glance over the shoulder at someone.They made us feel as if the world was a perfect,insult free,peaceful land where you couldn't be touched.Then,as I was about to move into the sixth grade,I decided I wanted to go to a new school;Elza Tucker.I have never been in a fight with my parents in my life.Anyway, then I came to Tucker,and I was a little nervous,so I hid myself away from the group for four and a half months.During this time,I learned the real ways of the world to it's full streangth,the only way it could have been worse is if there were drugs involved,which there were not.Then,as I was starting to adjust,I started noticing a girl who had sat next to me in alot of classes.I sort of had a crush on her.The problem is she hates me Then I started walking around school never smiling or laughing.Ever.NOWeveryoneHATESmeILOVEher.
2007-03-16 14:47:04 · 7 answers · asked by europe_jbb 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It seems that you were in a very insulated community as a result you did not learn the skills to deal with all kinds of people, nice and not nice. So, you were thrown into new situation without the tools to deal and were not accustomed to reaching out and making new friends. Kids can be mean and are usually mean to new kids. You not smiling to others is not helping the situation. Because you spend so much time in school you need to try and turn this around. First you don't know the girl hates you and that everyone else does also. What would you think about a quiet new kid who walked around and never smiled? Try joining a club or sports in school, even if you think you are not the club type. It will help you meet people and all you need is one friend to start the ball rolling. Then be open. Smile and talk to people.
Is nervousness usually a problem for you? Do you often see things in black and white. I.E. People love or hate you. I think you need to tell your parents about how you are feeling and see if they can assist you in your feelings and makng friends. If the depression is very bad and think about harming yourself, you need to see a doctor
2007-03-16 16:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by brie623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess the best way to get your depression fixed is going to the doctor. Depression is a physical illness, where activity in the brain slows down (messages being sent back and fourth), which make you feel sad and stuff.
But since it doesn't really seem that bad, try this. There was a study done that has proven to work where every night before you go to bed, you think of 1 (or 3, I forgot) good thing that happened to you that day. After you get into the habit, after a little while (it will not work immediately), it should work. I haven't tried it, though.
But if you really do have depression, a doctor could fix it. Ask for your parents to take you to him.
2007-03-16 14:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by George 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you're in the "real world", understand that all the self pitty and self abuse you're putting on yourself is not helping you get out from underneath this rock you have built for yourself and put around your anckle. You're still young, so don't take yourself down the path of self abuse. Think about what girls like (or anyone likes for that matter). They like confidence and person who has self-respect. That's why they are all over the jocks, but as you get older you have to get intelectuality as well because believe it or not, everyone grows up.
If you really want to get out of this funk, then don't focus on yourself so much. Join an organization, a club, a social environment where you don't have to hide yourself. Life has it's tough moments, but hanging your head on any one of these moments doesn't allow you to enjoy the great moments that life can present. Look for your chance to shine and express yourself and exploit that chance to the fullest because from this chance comes true happiness.
2007-03-16 15:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ilya S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need is a good friend, a journal, and (i'm not jocking) a good cartoon to set you on the right foot.You are socialy inept (i was to) but when you do what you want when you feel like it you'll feel better, people will see what youre realy like and some one will start likeing who you are. I'm insane and don't hide what i like to do from the world (likes to bite strange things, mess in peoples hair, and shout whats on her mind) normaly i was very quiet, but you don't get what you want with your voice on mute, it took me about 10 years to figure that out (try it) ^^
2007-03-16 15:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by sucrosan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get something in your life that makes you happy. Art, reading, dance or what ever! You some times are the only one that can make you happy. My thing is shopping. and writing.Be your self, Friends will come you'll see. Be happy!!
2007-03-16 14:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately talk to your parents. It would also be a good idea not to say what school you go to on the internet.
2007-03-16 14:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that well try to make friends and make sure you have a bound with your parients their your only frineds that you got just stay strong and good luck
2007-03-16 14:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by j13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋