Should I call or not?

Question

My son & I are moving 4 hours away next Sat.(husband's idea). Last Thurs. I confronted him b/c I think he's cheating. Sun. he left upset & we haven't seen him since. I called him after he left Sun. & he wouldn't answer. I sent him a text & told him that if he wants it to be like this the last 2 wks we're here then I'd give him what he wants & not bother him until we say goodbye. He said he didn't want it to be that way. Mon. he called me at work & tried to act normal. I spoke briefly to him & hung up on him. I haven't tried to contact him til tonight. I tried to hold out so he'd be the one to call me first but couldn't. I texted him & said "hey". He hasn't responded. He works 2pm.-11pm M-F & hasn't come home one night this week. He comes home during the day(I'm@work)& today I can tell he packed a bag. Maybe so he doesn't have to come home this weekend. Should I keep trying to contact him so we can talk about things or just let him do what he wants & then we'll just go?

His idea was for us to move for awhile to save money & since we don't see each other that much anyway since he's always "working" and he doesn't want us to be by ourselves.

Answer 1

i would continue as you are and move... when he knows your really gone he'll contact you, everything will work out for the best

Answer 2

Keep in ming I have very little information for my opinion. You think he's cheating, well is he? He may be using this opportunity to blatantly go with the other woman. I can't imagine my hubby just vanishing like that!
That's someone who just doesn't care or thinks that no matter what he does he will be forgiven.... Which is it?

I am sorry you're hurting, sometimes ending a bad situation is the least painful, at least in the long run...
I don't take divorce lightly, but as it look from the info I have, it doesn't look promising. I can imagine all the feelings you're having. Stop contacting him, yes I think he's a total jerk for not responding but I also don't know the whole story...

Answer 3

Face it, your husband has left. He probably left you emotionally a long time ago.
Your focus should be on what is best for your son.
Children need two parents. Work hard on what you can do to fix this because for as much as you hurt your son will hurt more.
Statistically children of divorce die 3 years sooner than children of stable marriages.
Go to counseling. Get tested for STD's.

Answer 4

it sounds like thier is more to his life then just his family its not right that he can walk out and not have to deal wth the after math you need tell him to get all of his stuff out and if he wants to make it work he will have to work a lot harder to be in you life you deserve more than that and so dose you son let him go and dont take him back you dont get to pick when you want to be a mom and he shouldnt get the right to pick when he wants to be a dad and husbend good luck

Answer 5

Do you know any of his friends well enough to be an intermediary...someone he can confide in, and you can talk to?

Sounds like either he is guilty of something, or simply hurt that you are moving. Why ARE you moving? Sounds he is moving as well?

Answer 6

if you have a son you really need to work things out with your husband. decide what happened between you too and make your decision with your son in mind. swallow your pride and call him and keep calling until he answers and you get things settled out

Answer 7

I no what your feeling holding out is so hold to do.You are waiting,waiting,waiting, for that phone to ring and when you can't take it anymore you swallow your proud and pick up the phone you hate yourself for doing it. You need to hold on don't call him and if he does call you don't talk to him.He is a prick and he will get what is coming to him.He don't care about you your son no one but his girlfriend and himself.

Answer 8

No.. u shouldnt call him anymore or answer his call. Change the home keys.. get rid of him. he has left you n your kids mentally n now he doing physically..you shouldnt move out at all. get him to out of your life/house. claim child maintanance from him.

Answer 9

don't let your marriage be a do or dare pissing contest
forgive and love him things will work out for the best

Answer 10

As hard as it's going to be to do it, you need to just let him go. He'll come to his senses, sooner or later, and call you. Good Luck......I KNOW it's hard to do!