I am 17 i need some help my stepdad raped me for the last 5 years. And i told some one and the cops but he got out with nothing but 30 days in jail. Now i want to try to get my life together. Before this happened i loved basketball and football. but now i dont care about anything at all. and my boyfriend says i need to try to get my life back and i have no clue where to start. please help me i am begging you!?!?!?!?!?!?
~*Ashley*~
2007-03-16 14:25:37 · 6 answers · asked by mommy 2 be 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thank you to all that have answered so far... I am going to a therapist and a shrink i can't spell the other word very well. But i miss my dreams and my wishes i wanted to be a pediatriction and a teacher for the special needs now i just want to commet suicide.
2007-03-16 14:42:44 · update #1
my step dad is no longer living with us but he wants to come back and be with my brothers. i have 5 brothers no sisters and im the oldest. my bf can't do anything cause im only 17...
2007-03-16 14:44:11 · update #2
Ashley, I would recommend a rape survivor's group. You can call a mental health information hot line and get a referral to one in your city or town. The group process will allow you to deal with the scary feelings of rage and grief that you need to express before you can really move on in your life. I wish you all the luck in the world in getting your life and your dreams back.
2007-03-16 14:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is all true, then:
a. you are damn lucky to be able to even entertain the idea of having a b/f
b. get the Hell out of your step-dad's life. At all costs.
c. when you are OUT, pray for him and Forgive him. This will ensure you keep no more emotional baggage with you down the pike.
d. pray to the Holy Spirit to help you live a day at a time.
I am NOT qualified in any way to say these things. I just feel they are right.
God Bless You
2007-03-16 14:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by bak2deefuture 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be a long process Ashley. If your parents are not there, you can go to a counsellor, through school or through Human Services (depending on where you live). Talk to whomever will listen, (avoid the weirdos) it will help you work through it all. It will take time. Hang in there. Pray. Know that you are loved.
2007-03-16 15:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by slsunfrog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like u may be suffering from depression. this is to be expected .depression robs people of their interests and joy for life. u are young and will bounce back . but first u must acknowledge what has happened to u. while u cant control what happened, or how the law delt with your stepfather, u can completely control how u react to it, and how it affects your life. u need to feel like u have power.some people need to get help from professionals when dealing with things that are as traumatic as yours. make the decision that u are going to fight this and get your life back.u will get better when u get tired of feeling the way u do. best wishes
2007-03-16 14:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start by getting out of the situation. Surely your mom cannot allow this to go on. Do you have a sister, aunt, grandmother or anyone to help you. Your boyfriend must be a nut case or else he would try to get you out of there. Call the local child welfare, seek out your minister, get some counseling. Survival is number one.
2007-03-16 14:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u need to do stuff to get ur mind off it so do basketball and football or stuff with your bf
2007-03-16 14:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by FairyPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋