The woman he cheated with lives in another state. She doesn't even know that he is married with a baby!!! He told her that he was single. I cheated on him with a woman a few years ago and nagged me about it for a very long time. Me and the girl made out one night but that was it - no emotions, it was just one night! It was definitely wrong. He took this woman out on a lot of dates, bought her gifts, and spent a lot of time talking to her - not to mention that he had sex with her several times while I was home alone and pregnant. I am debating on whether I should leave. It is so hard to move on. Everyday that I look at him - I am so upset because he completely dogged me out. During that time, he wouldn't even accept my calls and basically ignored me while I was pregnant with his child. He claims that he wants a family now and will be a better husband and won't cheat anymore. I am tempted to give it a try to see if it can work but also so tempted to leave. What would you do?
2007-03-16 14:25:23 · 16 answers · asked by Mary Jane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he's there, is because he picked you.... He made a mistake and had an affair, but isn't he HOME now?
He could have left you for the other woman, but he didn't. I'm not saying you should be grateful for having a cheating husband, but you should be grateful for having a man who responds for you and your child... And that's much more important that leaving in the past...
What's done is DONE! And there's nothing to do about it... Now you should work on what you have: A FAMILY.
I know you are hurt, and it make take a while to get over it, but you have him with you and that's what matters...
I've been there... And I know how difficult it is... If you can get over this, you can get over anything... But if you know you can't then don't waste your time... If you are confused maybe you should take some time apart to figure out if you can forgive him or not.
Relationships are Not easy and never will be....
2007-03-16 14:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should try to work things out before you leave - or make him leave.
It is your marriage that's the question.
I've never been in that situation, so I'm not gonna lie and say it'll be ok, you should never leave when you have a child involved, and yata yatta yatttta.
But I am gonna say that I've seen those situations, and I've seen some of them work out just fine. I suggest you pray on the matter - even if you aren't a religious person. It helps you out though. Discuss everything openly with your husband. Leave nothing out, and leave it all behind once it's all out. Don't continuously dwell on it or bring it back up. You two do have a kid on the way. It would be nice if they got to grow up with the both of you.
Again, no one is perfect, so don't think my answer is.
I do hope it helped you though. I wish you guys the best. â¥
2007-03-16 14:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay until the baby was born and you were back on your feet. Then I'd reevaluate the relationship and where it's going. It's hard to get established when you are preggers and then have a newborn. Take advantage of what's available right now.
Take care you don't get pregnant again.
2007-03-16 14:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For whatever reason having a baby is one of the top 5 reasons men cheat......I think that their wife being pregnant does something to there minds. He may have come to his senses, give him a chance.
2007-03-16 16:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him so fast he wouldn't know what hit him! He WILL do it again! He must not care much about you or he wouldn't have done that to you, especially while you were pregnant with his child. That's disgusting and wouldn't give him another chance to do that. And you and your husband should be tested for STD's. Good luck!
2007-03-16 14:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by noodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever you can deal with but he's not much of a man for doggin' you because reading your post you kissed another chick? That should have provided him with a visual most normal guys would ENVY-3 months and he blew you off and dated-hmmm-if it was me I'd do the MAD DASH outta there!
2007-03-16 14:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try--if nothing else, for your child. While it's mostly true that once a cheater, always a cheater, it's possible that your husband will be faithful, so give it a chance.
2007-03-16 14:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer comes from you I'll bet
because if you can't forgive then best forget
where there's two people digging up the past
when the storms of life come how can they last?
2007-03-16 14:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think both of you could greatly benefit from marriage counseling it sounds like you both have alot of issues to work out and now that you are pregnant it is a little more important as you are bringing a new life into this mess
2007-03-16 14:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly what I would do.
Never marry a nit wit like you or a jerk like your husband.
Stay with the guy, It is the best punishment he could get for being a liar and a cheater.
2007-03-16 14:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by kitchenheatindex 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋