Are we still friends?

Question

My best friend moved to Maryland 2 years ago. We were close when she left, but we got closer after she had already moved. We were THE BEST of friends. We spoke on the phone only once a week, but we would email every day and all of the emails took AT LEAST 10 minutes to read(yea they were that long). Aside from the emails and phone calls we sent letters to eachother by snail mail. We had great communication. Everything was great and neither of us minded having a best friend across the country. But then we got in a fight. Our communication broke down a bit and things got a little messy. It was harder(and it took longer) to fix our friendship because we couldn't talk on the phone to resolve things without paying big bucks. Eventually, things got better again and we got over our fight, but we're different. Neither of us changed, but our friendship changed. The long emails are gone, there aren't anymore letters, and the phone calls don't happen anymore. And whenever I talk to her on email

it doesn't seem like she's listening. I'll ask her lots of questions about what's going on in her life and she'll respond, but she doesn't seem to care what's going on with me. And when I tell her what's going on in my life, she either won't respond or will avert the conversation to herself again. I really wanna save this friendship. Lots of people told us our friendship wouldn't last this long across the entire country, but we were good for a while and I'm sure we can be okay again. help me save this friendship? please?

Answer 1

Not to worry! I have had the very best friend in the world for 39 years! And...in that time we've both moved to various parts of the country, got married (always each other's maids of honor!), lost touch for long periods of time, but in the end true friend ship prevails! Don't give up so easy! keep in touch and understand she may be going thru some difficult times apart from you.

Answer 2

That sounds like a book I read Snail Mail no longer and PS Longer Letter Later. And at the end every thing worked out.

Answer 3

i think that your friend is afraid, afraid that you two might have another fight like that again, afraid that she'll lose you, that's probably why she is trying not to get so deep with you. But me and my best friend(s) had and fight and we were all never the same anymore, all of them begin to hate me and kicked me out. And then i only have ONE true friend left and they are trying to convince her that i am going to ditch her. Well about two weeks ago me and my use-to-be friend had and fight, we made up and then were friends again but she never acted the same around me anymore. Even though she didn't change. and i went back to my old attitude and then we had another fight and now we are not friends and i m kinda happy but she dragged all of the other girls along with her.
So if she was really feeling the same about you she would care. if it seems like she doesn't care about you why should you care about her? itz probably ur a good friend but is she lost interest in you leave her along for a while or so.

Answer 4

Sounds like it may not have been TRUE friendship. Send her an e-card(free) just to say hi and let her know she is being thought of. If she wants the friendship to continue, she will reply. The other thing to consider is get MCI long distance for a flat rate of about $39.00 you can call any where, talk as long as you want. It still will only cost $39.99;then you can talk as long as you need to.

HAVE FUN!!!!

Answer 5

It takes time to get over the fight you guys had...same thing happened to me unfortunately the friendship never returned to normal. Things happen....you find new friends and new memories with someone else....to me true friend will always be there for you no matter how you act or what you say.....a fight should be resolved in days.....

Answer 6

yes you both are still friends but not the best friends because there are scar into it. No one is willing to give in and accept other faults. When you are able to accept her lack of totally one day, you be best friends again because both of you have withstand the test of friendship.

When you grow older, you find your friends getting less, lesser close becuase of time constraint and responsibility in life. So makes lots of friends and never neglect them. it was like flower, need nourishing or it will dies off.

Answer 7

I think time will heal anything that happens. And only time will tell if you are still friends or not. Carry on as normally as you can and may be, things will get back to the usual routine. If it doesn't, its sad then, but do think of great memories instead of bitter ones and life will continue to be beautiful.

Answer 8

You have obviously missed the long EMails so you are using us with a long question you have because of distance moved to that stage where you are acquaintances only .

Answer 9

omg !! i totally admire you ! being able to hold onto this friendship for so long and still want it to go on !! i hope your friend realizes that you're a good friend and the best kind of friend a person can have ! she probably has problems going on in her life or found a new friend ..

Answer 10

Yes