Is there a man out there that's in the military and is having problems with home life since he's been back? Does the marriage seem a lot different?
2007-03-16 14:15:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My mom was married to an Army man, and after the Korea thing, he was different. I don't know by how much, probably in communicating with mom.
As for myself, as a woman, I can understand how things are different in military life, coming home from a war, and then having to readjust to life in the states, and back in the family routine. The woman has had to be the "man and woman" of the household, making decisions that normally the man would make, if not away for so long, etc. And to get "back into the swing of things" takes time. Memories of the war, what was seen and heard, and experienced, no one can truly understand unless they have "been there, done that". Please seriously consider counseling-for both of you. There is a period of time both need to get readjusted, and the counsleing will help. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-03-16 14:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by SAK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not in this situation, but my dad fought in a war and my brother just came back from Iraq. I do know that there are things that happen in war and things that soldiers do while fighting a war that are not things that they would do in their everday life. (ok, that is pretty much a given, I know). My dad told me about some things that he did while fighting, and I know that part of him was not proud of it, while the soldier part knew that he did what he needed to do. I honestly think that when a person goes through some of those things, a part of them dies or goes far inside themselves. I don't know exactly what your husband went through, but I am betting that he needs to know that you love him no matter what happened over there. Even if you think he knows that, it is important to say it outloud to him. Give him some time, he needs to reorient himself with this world, without feeling pressured...I know that that is hard when you have been here, waiting for him to come back home.
By the way, please tell him thank you for serving our country and sacrificing his time with you. And thank you for sacrificing your time with him for him to be able to serve our country...best wishes, and I hope that everything works out for you guys!
2007-03-16 15:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by daisy31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant say from experience, but ive watched my parents go through it three times. my dad was in three wars and each time he came back things changed. he was in iraq for a year this last time. now we dont eat dinner as a family anymore because neither of my parents want to wait for the other one to get home. they still sleep in the same bed but go to sleep at different times and wake up at different times. there is no more spark in the relationship. at least from my standpoint as a product of the relationship
2007-03-16 14:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by sufreshman14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not in this situation... but I can imagine that being apart for any extended period of time would impact the relationship quite a bit.
2007-03-16 14:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by littlearthquake3355 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a changed person now. He has seen somethings you have not even had nightmares to compare with.
2007-03-16 14:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by MARE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋